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While some will say the male version is not cool as well, the fact is you are comparing very different acts. The fact is that women are naturally the gatekeepers of sex. An average young woman who desires to have sex need merely go to a frathouse and remove her clothing, and she will soon be filled by a penis, and eventually if she so desires, semen. A man who disrobes in a sorority or other all female space will soon be in the back of a police car. `
And this is not just because eggs are expensive and sperm is cheap. Although that is a biological reality. The lady in our scenario is more likely to catch an STD by about a 10x factor than the bloke. And if she does its more likely to cause serious damage to her reproductive system. And her system is on a much more tight clock. So our bloke who's "wasting" his sperm at 21 isn't really. He's diminished by 35, but not nearly as much as our girl. And at 45, forget it. She's approaching zero fertility or already there. He is at, "improve your diet and exercise so you have a good shot over a 6 month period".
So yeah, one activity is low effort and actively hostile to your long term fertility. The other is high effort and has de minimus effect on your long term fertility. Pretending they are similar is silly.
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