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My rule of thumb, which has to be adjusted amd prioritized to some degree, is Do what you need to do before you do what you want to do.
As you might imagine, this possibly wouldn't work well for obsessive-compulsive types (I do not use that term with any accuracy), who might see an ever-expanding and never-ending list in their minds of things that need doing. But it generally keeps entropy at bay, keeps my sense of time efficiency fairly positive, and keeps my wife from having to do every goddam thing around the house. I also like to think modeling such behavior will be good for my sons, for whom lethargy and idleness sometimes seem to come naturally.
A suggestion that may seem unrelated: Get a plant, preferably a flowering or fruit- (or vegetable-) bearing plant. Look up how to tend it properly, including soil pH, pruning, watering, etc. Then start taking care of it. The process of continual vigilance, patience, and reward when it does bloom/bear fruit is I think instructive.
I pair up
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precisely to avoid the list of chores expanding every time I get two-thirds of the way down the list. It is vital to define chores narrowly enough that one can actually finish today's and have a little time left over.
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I share your rule. It's only that I feel like I'm passing a point where I'm losing sight of what it was I wanted to do.
Propagating more plants is about halfway down my list. In fact I'm mere days away from discovering whether the seeds that I collected from my garden last year are going to come out with pink, white or blue flowers (come ooooon pink!). On the other hand maintaining and improving the (poorly planned) garden is one (slash many) of the tasks towards the top of the list - and those particular tasks have a tendency to cycle back and regenerate in short order.
I've found taking before and after photos of projects or documenting in other ways to be a good way of keeping some perspective on progress and avoid the feeling of being stuck in a perpetual "work in progress" stage.
Anyway, I texted a friend who I've been putting off catching up with until the weather improved. Drinking beer on a boat will be a nice change. Can't help feeling that it doesn't actually advance matters though. Ehh, trade offs. It's not like I was going to fix everything in one night.
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