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Wellness Wednesday for June 12, 2024

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Do you read a lot of news or social media? Try cutting all that out for a while.

The Reddit algorithms get me to waste more time than I would like. Intuitively, I know they are feeding me variants of the same things and that it is all a waste of time. I need to do better at not opening the app. I don’t use Snap/Instagram/TikTok at all.

I feel a little bit of conflict about cutting all news and social media out though because I like to stay connected and informed. I want to be able to keep up with IRL conversations (which often involve online trends and news) and know about trends that can impact the stock market.

I suggested it because I feel like your anxieties come from reading the news and feeling like you have a duty to be informed and concerned about what you read. Your worries aren't about personal problems. If you weren't reading external sources, would you notice these issues in your day to day life?

Worrying about these things is net negative. It makes you feel bad and doesn't actually change anything. You are not obliged to stress about the state of the world.

If you weren't reading external sources, would you notice these issues in your day to day life?

Mostly yes because I initially noticed something IRL that caused me to dig for explanatory data. The triggers are things like:

  • Wanting to buy a house, so I dig to understand the market conditions.
  • Not having success on dating apps, so I dig to understand why and if this is a common problem for other men.
  • People around me talking about things they encountered on the internet and me digging to understand why I was so out of the loop.

However, once I have the information that I need I don’t stop digging. At that point it becomes unhealthy and causes anxiety. I agree that I need to reduce the time I spend reading news/social media, and I need to be more intentional about filtering the information to get just the small amount I need.

Try uninstalling the app to make it less palatable. Forcing yourself to use the normal interface on your phone will definitely slow and annoy you.

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