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Culture War Roundup for the week of June 10, 2024

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People can conceivably be interested in anything. I don’t bore women with discussions about anime and sports, if that’s what you’re getting at.

No, it's not. I meant the specific person you were talking to. Are they, specifically interested?

I do not pay attention to women unless I’m required to for work. My girlfriend also prefers that I not have female friends, which works fine given my preferences.

It's unsurprising that your young female colleague might be more sensitive to being talked down to than your middle aged male friend. Because you're not friends, for one thing.

I don’t know what the point of this question is, but no, I don’t pretend to be interested in things if I’m not actually interested in them.

Then it's hardly surprising that it would be more enjoyable for someone to learn about a topic from the internet than from you. I'm currently getting the impression that if I really needed the information you were giving, I would choose another source if possible, despite not generally being a "mansplaining" critic.

Didn’t ask; don’t care.

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Then don't engage.

In the short time since you spun up this alt, you've posted nothing but crappy comments and antagonism. That plus deleting a lot of your comments makes it pretty clear you aren't here to contribute anything but turds in the punch bowl.

Banned for three days. Decide whether you actually have anything to say.