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non_radical_centrist  6mo ago (farhakhalidi.substack.com)   7083 thread views

confessions of a femcel: why i'm a 24 year old female virgin.

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It's an essay about the various flaws modern feminist sex positivity culture has for women, and that it's often a good idea to refrain from sex even if one isn't religious. The author is an Only Fans model for context. I thought it did a great job laying out the downsides of ubiquitous sex.(Reposted because I accidentally linked to reddit instead of the original essay earlier).

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Not much to elaborate. Clueless, nervous, uncommunicative. Unable to initiate conversation,monosyllabic in response, zero cross gender social skills.

Now I'm getting flashbacks to a Korean classmate in high school, a lonnng time ago.

A mutual female friend (Taiwanese, but raised locally) asked me senior year whether I would be up for taking said classmate to the prom.

I said "Thank you, but I wasn't planning on going." I can only imagine what the ensuing vast, hours-long conversational chasm would have been like. I couldn't even say for certain whether the two of us actually ever talked to each other in school.

Did you realize only years later that this girl liked you? I guess asking you to prom is less obtuse than the norm, but I've had 'have you watched (scifi movie I liked) yet? i wanted to watch with (asian girl) but I watched it with my boyfriend already' said in conversation and the like 6 years later I realize I was supposed to ask (asian girl) out. Bitch, what the fuck.

My read at the time was that Mutual Friend was attempting to arrange for Other Girl to "go to the prom", and was trying to find someone to fill a critical slot in the plan. I've had no reason to re-evaluate that.

If it had been Mutual Friend asking for herself, I might have said yes. We had known each other for years at school, and hours upon hours in the same school bus by that point. But any theoretical indulgence for our shared history did not extend to Other Girl.

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