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It's an essay about the various flaws modern feminist sex positivity culture has for women, and that it's often a good idea to refrain from sex even if one isn't religious. The author is an Only Fans model for context. I thought it did a great job laying out the downsides of ubiquitous sex.(Reposted because I accidentally linked to reddit instead of the original essay earlier).
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I don't have much experience dating East Asians, but one did ask me to be her boyfriend on the third date before we'd even kissed. I thought that was odd.
That’s pretty normal for socially conservative cultures.
I thought they'd wait longer than most people to ask that.
Social conservatism is pretty correlated with short courtships, globally. From that perspective going steady while not officially a couple is wasting time at best and treating her like a floozy at worst.
The American violet tribers who date for years on end are very exceptional, and both scandalize and confuse their European counterparts.
Being in a relationship for years on end without marrying is very much a European thing lol. I agree the Sex and the City thing of casually dating (possibly hooking up with) several people at once and then having “the talk” about exclusivity with one and letting the others down is a weird (imo slightly sociopathic) American thing. Honestly, though, I think its popularity is pretty overblown; statistics on lifetime partner count suggest the number of people fucking three or four dating prospects simultaneously must be a pretty low proportion of the population, and they certainly are in my experience, even in NYC.
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