DirtyWaterHotDog
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Is it doxxing if Franco publicly replied to him on twitter ? Sounds like the kid has realized that anti-semitism is very cool in ivy-league colleges right now and doubling down will be rewarded.
experiences with Jews were not “pleasant,” after a NYC startup he had applied to reached out
I can't imagine that a 19 yr old kid from a Virginia exurb has had many 'experiences with Jews'. He's spent 1 year at Cornell (admittedly very Jewish) after transferring from Virginia tech. When would he have worked for Jews before to have formed such a strong opinion ? Sounds like programming more than genuine experiences.
Cynically, the kid is from Virginia and studies labor relations at Cornell. That screams 'I want to be a future politician', and antisemitism is table stakes for 19 year old college populists.
In my experience, it is quite difficult to tell liberal college-aged Jews apart from their white counter parts. And the Jews at liberal schools are usually the anti-Israel kind.
Quoting myself from 2 months ago
Conventional politics of the future is antisemitic. There is bipartisan agreement on it among the youth.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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2d ago
Real Football is more like fighting than other sports.
For most of the game, you are whittling down your opponent. The inevitable hook (goal) is the result of minutes of build up before.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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3d ago
That can't be right ? American sports are known to be stop and go.
Hockey is the only one with a faster cadence. And honestly, their fans have some pretty good chants. (Or at least my school did)
DirtyWaterHotDog
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3d ago
Yep. I paid 500$ for a group stage game. Nothing to do with status. World cup games in your city are a once in life time opportunity. You pay so you can remember the game.
The NY knicks winning a championship is a less than once in a lifetime opportunity. There are middle class fans who would sell their life savings for it. $20k for courtside seats is frankly under priced. It's pocket change for billionaires.
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3d ago
DirtyWaterHotDog
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3d ago
The other thing is it’s the blackification of celebration. Where you need to do things loud and visually to show how much it means to you
Come on. Sports are a worldwide phenomenon, and Americans of all flavors are the infamous for being mild in their celebrations*. In fact, it is kind of sad that Americans have such a corporate relationship with their sport. If you can't be loud and in-tears after an emotional moment for your team, then are you even a real fan ?
*exception - Philadelphia
DirtyWaterHotDog
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7d ago
Most boring survey responder ever, reporting for duty.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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27d ago
We can force men to die, but can't even ask women to become mothers
Veteran vs Mother is great like for like comparison. Fairly obvious that mothers get a worse deal.
War sucks. Therefore, social norms and economic incentives are disproportionately generous towards veterans. Doesn't matter if they never saw action. Doesn't matter if the profession has lower mortality rates than logging or fisheries. They're heroes and must be thanked for their service every 5 minutes. They get holidays, movies, medals and awards. Free healthcare, free college, VA checks as pension and discounts at every store.
What do mothers get ? A mother loses between 5-20 years of her life depending on her involvement with the kids. Career women are forced into a ceiling. Pretty women lose their beauty. Complicated pregnancies can come with a lifetime of physical and emotional trauma. We used to treat mothers like heroes. Communities pitched in to help during the difficult years. To raise your children into well-adjusted adults was a source of pride. Not anymore. Now, the incentives have reversed. Media has stopped portraying motherhood in a positive light and perceived standards for parenting have reached impossible levels.
Now the easiest explanation for this double standard is probably just gender bias: we simply have less empathy for men as a whole.
women != mothers. Society has empathy for beautiful young women, not for neurotic mothers who're at their wits end.
It's carrots and sticks. We can talk about sticks that coerce young women into become mothers. But, there need to be more carrots for mothers. Maybe we need stop asking what mothers can do for society, and start asking society what it can do for mothers.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Traditional society was a 'suck it up, life is hard' system that worked because things sucked equally for both genders. Men got an unfair amount of agency, and in return, women got an unfair amount of protection.
Feminism correctly pointed out that industrialized society should not be beholden to this survivalist system. In practice, they've focused on increasing agency for women, while fiercely guarding the protections of the erstwhile survivalist system.
Men have no competing movement because asking for protection is humiliating in erstwhile male society. Credit where it is due, Suffragettes did not get the credit they deserve for persisting with their non-woman-like behavior in public.
Asking for legal protections because you got cucked is humiliating. Asking for alimony from a wealthier ex-wife is humiliating.
One day, men will have their feminist movement. To men of this era, It will be ugly. It will look like boys becoming twinks. It will look like weak men refusing to take responsibility. It will look like welfare queens. As much as this forum is pro-men, I bet the shape of the eventual pro-men movement will disgust the median man on here.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Nope. Havent had great biryani in the Bay area. I'm an expert on the matter.
Great udipi food (madhurai idli). Good Pakistani food (zareens). Good experimental Indian (copra). Surprisingly acceptable marathi food (pav bhaji food truck, puranpoli) acceptable indo-chinese (inchins bamboo garden).
There are a few schizo places that are a 8/10 or 2/10 and no in-between. Highly unreliable, but pretty good on a good day. Eg- Aaha in Mission for Telugu/chettinad food. They make the least bad biryani in SF on a good day. Let's just say their sanitation standards are in line with the rest of the mission.
No standout north Indian or mughlai places that I know of.
P.s: while I'm talking about Indian places in the Bay. Fuck Rooh. Bad food and expensive.
How dare you! There were 2 pots of Biryani, and I invited the whole town.
Some ingredient proportions for scale.
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I'll probably do it again this summer. I'll take proper photos this time around.
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Many cultures have a 'brothy meaty rice' dish that needs a ton of effort to get right. When done right, that dish is the best. When done wrong, it is crappy fried rice.
Eg:
- Hainanese Chicken rice
- Paella valenciana
- Biryani
Each dish is labor intensive and needs experience to get right. I've had the privilege of trying some of the best versions of each dish. If your Biryani tastes like crappy fried rice, it is crappy Biryani. Same for Paella and Chicken Rice.
Mutton Biryani no, one of the GREATEST fooD eveR IvEnTeD in the worlD
Amen
I got sick of bad Biryani in the US and [made it myself](link na). No humility for this one. Took a ton of effort, and I bet it was the best Biryani in the city that day.
I now understand why restaurant Biryani sucks. Unless you're a dedicated Biryani shop (which only happens in India), you can't justify the effort it takes to make good Biryani. It took me about 2 days, start to finish.
And then the "Indian" restaurant I ordered from yesterday served it with peas.
@self_made_human , that's a war crime.
there's regional variation. Pakistani biryani is different, so is the Afghan kind. There's like half a dozen other variants from India
This variation is meaningful.
Lucknowi Biryani (Canonical North Indian Biryani) is meant to be aromatic, umami and fragrant. Hyderabadi Biryani (Canonical South Indian Biryani) is meant to be spicy, indulgent and saucier. I made Hyderabadi Biryani, it is my favorite. The other variations involve different types of rice (Kerala), adding potatoes (Bengali), and raisins (Karachi. This is haram).
Unfortunately, Indian restaurants in the west are mostly run by Punjabi & Bangla people. Neither regions are good at Biryani.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Genuinely appreciate it.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Hey hey hey !
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
@ThomasdelVasto , as @Bartender_Venator said, there is some permanent damage that won't fix itself. The Labrum has a tear, and needs to be repaired. It has started creating a lesion because of the instability it causes.
I'll be doing Yoga and PT after the surgery. I grew up in a household where my grand mom did 3 hours of yoga daily, and the lady is still full of vigor in her mid-80s. Clearly it worked.
My ortho, sports-medicine consult, gpt 5.5 xhigh and 4.7 Opus max are all in agreement on the surgery. It is minimally invasive, so shouldn't be too bad. So surgery it is.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
That's good to hear. I am weighing both options and haven't set a date for the surgery yet. But am leaning surgery. Might get a 2nd opinion just to be safe though.
Claude, the Doctor and Chat GPT all agreed on the condition & surgery after looking at my MRI. The Ortho recommended surgery primarily because I want to keep playing soccer and climbing.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Embarrassing. I was stretching mid-yawn after a long day at work.
The first one, the traumatic one happened last year when I was a surfing and a wave crashed on top of me. Churned me like I was in a washing machine and spat me out with my shoulder out of place. Bizarre experience.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Never waste a good crisis.
Dislocated my shoulder my last week. 2nd time and non-traumatic. Ortho says I should get surgery while it is still minor. All things said and done, it is not that bad. Minimally invasive and I will be back to 100% within a couple of months.
It's got me motivated to control the things I can control. Been cooking daily so calorie counts stay low. Started cycling now that the weather is nice. Neither tasks take high motivation. Hoping I can keep it up in the medium term.
Some takes
Rebuttal: I need whoever thinks this way to take a couple minutes and realize that the world isn’t about them. Do you think that when I see someone raped or murdered or abused, I should walk on by because it would be “inconvenient” for people who aren’t the victim?
The hypocrisy!
His LinkedIn profile shows he graduated from the California Institute of Technology with a bachelor’s degree in mechanical engineering and from California State University, Dominguez Hills, with a master’s degree in computer science.
That's odd. Half-decent Caltech grads can walk into elite master's programmes with scholarships. I'd argue it is more prestigious than MIT for STEM. Going to a CSU for master's is a red flag.
Culture war angle -
Mixed identities, irreconcilable differences, and violence as a cry for acceptance.
half-black, half-white person
At the risk of contriving a point, the unsuccessful mixing of identities is a common source of identity crises. And, radicalization is tied to identity crises. Here, I mean 'identity' in a wide sense : 2nd gen middle-eastern immigrants (mixed-nationals), bi-racial kids (mixed-race), trans people (mixed sex). If you squint, then the zeal of a convert can be reframed as radical behavior among the trans-religious.
This tension is reconcilable if the identities are compatible (eg: mixed nationals of allied nations) or orthogonal (say US-Ghana, latino-filipino). Obama's Kenyan-Hawaiian-White identities seem compatible, and he turned out alright. From Cole Allen's characterization of his identity, it sounds like he hadn't reconciled his African-American & American-White sides. I'd love to understand the specific mechanisms by which conflicting mixed identities reach violent or peaceful resolution. I'm sure it is different for each group.
In a less violent context and closer to home, I am endlessly fascinated by the dynamics of Indian-American mixed nationals. [Very much anecdotal]FOB (1st gen) immigrants like me are comfortable in adopting an American professional & civic identity, while holding onto their Indian cultural & spiritual identity. I've observed that East-Coast 2nd generations have a well integrated '2nd gen American-Indian' identity. Nimesh Patel and Akaash Singh are the classic archetypes. They hold onto an Indian religious identity, but have a distinctly east coast cultural identity. It's stable. West-Coast 2nd generations are the more interesting group. I've observed a visible discomfort that emanates from many west-coast 2nd gen Indians. Like they don't belong. Kamala is the most visible example of this archetype.[/Very much anecdotal]
I can't read their minds, so I'm projecting by relying on the closest analogue from my own experiences. As a kid, I had long periods where I was left out and didn't know my place. I hadn't figured out who I was supposed to be. It was a bad feeling. A physically perceptible discomfort coursed through me like a miasma. It festered for years before it got better (I use big words, because it was a big feeling). I'd fantasize about doing something heroic that'd get me accepted. Other times, I'd fantasize about angrily lashing out. I suspect those are common fantasies among people who don't have settled identities. Thankfully for me, I found myself and put that period behind me. Sometimes, I wonder how I would have fared in an era of Bluesky and social media.
The topic is close to my heart for more reasons than idle fascination. If things pan out, my child will be mixed-national , mixed-religious and mixed-race. I'm optimistic that the parents' identities are more compatible than not. But I will have to actively plan for mitigations instead of hoping for a default harmonious resolution.
Have users on this forum struggled with mixed identities? How did you resolve the frictions? Do you have a stable identity that you're now at peace with?
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Gotta trust left wingers to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory.
Trump's approval are in free-fall. The best way to kill Trump's movement is to wait for the midterms. Why would you hand him a narrative victory?
Yes. I've lived in rural and suburban areas. Sunlight was worse. There was nothing to do. I hated it. I'll give you this. The air was cleaner in the rural town. But, the suburb didn't breathe better than NYC.
NYC is large. Times Square, Harlem and Hell's Kitchen suck balls. NYC proper has the same population as Arizona. It matters where you live. Visitors get a skewed image of NYC because all the hotels and touristy bits are in the most concrete-clad and crowded part of the most crowded city. I sounds like your opinion of NYC is informed by those few neighborhoods.
Once you leave those neighborhoods, NYC quickly becomes livable. The subway remains smelly. But, the streets feel pleasant, or smell of hotdogs and halal carts. Either way, I approve. I haven't visited the Bronx or Staten Island much. But, Brooklyn and Queens have a ton of green spaces. Everyone living North of 50th street in Manhattan can walk to Central Park. If you need more, you can live beside Prospect Park.
That being said, I've heard NYC was worse in the 90s. Maybe things have gotten better since. Even today, Shitty NYC apartments are shitty. But a shitty trailer park home is shitty too. Poverty sucks in general.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
I now live in NYC, in an even smaller (personal preference, I can afford bigger) apartment. So.....clearly I like it.
Idk if you're rage-baiting or sincere. There is no way you actually believe that about apartments. You're describing a prison, not an apartment.
Apartments have better sunlight and ventilation than SFHs because they sit higher up. An apartment is only as noisy as the cars on the street below. Live by the highway, suffer from noise. Live on a side-street, and it is quiet.
Engaging with your neighbors is as optional as engaging with suburban neighbors. You may see them once in a while, but that's about it. In my current apartment, I don't know their names and barely see them. In previous apartments, we were of similar age groups and became friends. If you buy a condo, you're expected to vet your neighbors like you'd vet your suburban neighbors. You can choose your own adventure.
Apartments can have patios or balconies. The building usually has a shared rooftop and a shared back-yard. I don't get the obsession with large private outdoors. The whole point of staying in apartment is to be in a dense city where one can walk to whichever amenity they want. Want to play a sport -> walk to the sports ground. Want serenity -> walk to the local garden. want to play with your dog -> walk to the local park. As a bonus, all of them are better maintained than anything I could manage on my own.
DirtyWaterHotDog
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1mo ago
Apartments are houses!
Around the world, people live in apartments, have children in them, and sustain rich communities inside of them. I fail to understand why apartments are antithetical to housing ? Its a uniquely American (anglo) obsession. I grew up in a residential apartment building in India, and it was great ! A neighborhood must have narrow-enough (safe) streets, few cars and enough parks. That's all you need to make it friendly towards children. Suburban Culs-de-sac achieve this by limiting car entry and making everyone have their own park in their own house. But nothing about dense apartments stops a community from achieving the same things.
In the US, NIMBYs have made it difficult to build apartments. So apartments can only be built in undesirable places (eg:highways) or loud places for singles (city downtowns). In their working years, Americans are forced to live in either shitty or lifeless apartments. Inevitably, they hate apartments, and move into houses as soon as they can afford it. Once they buy houses, they become NIMBYs, keeping apartments shitty and lifeless. It's a self fulfilling prophecy.
I randomly chose a bunch of suburbs and residential neighborhoods of peer cities to the US. Random Paris suburb, Geneva, Istanbul ourskirts, Mumbai, Bangkok outskirts. What about these places is hostile to families ?
Even in the US itself. Brooklyn, Queens, SF or Seattle have great example of apartment-dominant residential neighborhoods that are still desirable for families and accessible from public transportation.
Yes, some millenials have gotten radicalized into doomerist (managed decline) and communist (subsidize demand) beliefs. They're loud, but very much a minority. The majority just want to live in a nice apartment in a neighborhood they like.
Question, are you using Opus 4.8 Max ?
People's experience with claude is heavily dependent on which model you use.
100%. I see this exact pattern in coding as well. Senior engineers are empowered, junior engineers create more slop and headaches.
Pyramid schemes, by definition are immune to touching grass. They are fraudulent from day 1. It's like saying "now that we found a fully intact fossil of a dinosaur, support for creationism will collapse". If the pyramid scheme of Academia was to collapse, it would have happened by now.
Every layer of abstraction takes you away from the raw experience of the science itself. It's like playing football by mashing buttons in Fifa.
I worry about a 'medium is the message' style collapse of science. Scientists will only investigate topics that feel amenable to ai-agents. In such a world, computation gets reduced to combinatorics. I hate it. In a real numbers shaped world, AI would never intent complex numbers. In a classical physics world, AI would never suggest a relativistic model. These are not combinatoric outcomes. They're ...... 'romantic'. Ai-agents are another step in what's a century long erosion of romance from science. (statistics -> RCTs -> computers -> internet -> ai).
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