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Man, here, will say that men (or at least attractive or otherwise high status men) will fuck promiscuous women but never marry them. But that isn't really true.
I think that this used to be far truer than it is today. Yes, some men in the past married their mistresses. But for the most part mistress and wife were steps on different relationship tracks.
I am the least qualified person to summarize modern courtship mores, but the progression looks to me like this: sex, then long-term relationship, then moving in together, then marriage. In old-fashioned terms, most men in the early stages are asking, "Will she make a good mistress?" Only once that works out will they ask, "Will she make a good wife?" The wife filter is happening late in the process, and the function of marriage then is to cement a relationship that already exists.
By contrast older mores encouraged men to check for wife material earlier in the relationship, and a man who was expressly looking for mistress material wasn't putting her on the wife track.
I seriously recommend either a good intro class or a good book for self study. (My recommendations on those would be pretty outdated now, so I can't offer any names myself.)
What WhiningCoil says about programming being a diverse set of skills in practice is true. But there is a core aptitude of thinking algorithmically. Some people can do it off the bat, some people can't do it at all, and some people need to try it from several angles before it clicks. This isn't really a matter of being smart enough; once you're over a certain threshold of intelligence, there just seem to be some people who are wired for it and some who aren't.
So I'd start with that. If it clicks, you can move on to study the other stuff in whatever way is best for you. If it doesn't, you can know that you gave it a fair shake.
Edit: As an addendum, I recommend learning your second programming language soon after your first. Some people fret about this and think it will be harder than it is. But it isn't that hard, and having experienced it will change how you evaluate your tooIs.
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OP's quotes are accurate but not fully representative. Fortunately Gillitrut posted an archive link below, if you want to read the whole thing.
In between logical proofs and personal experience, don't neglect the category of publicly available evidence, of which historical evidence is one important species. ( @WandererintheWilderness gets into this a bit below.) If you are convinced by the evidence for Jesus' resurrection, you can get at the existance of God that way.
Separately, if you are trying to understand how people work through these things in practice, it is helpful to think about how and why people move in both directions: theist to atheist as well as vice-versa. There is extra-rational movement both ways.
She is trying to break down a set of problems as she sees them among American converts to Eastern Orthodoxy. I don't know the situation there. I am inclined to give her more credit because she acknowledges the reasons we'd expect the facts on the ground to be different. On the other hand, she pattern matches to someone who treats the other sex's read of the vibes as a core part of the problem and her own sex's read as objective truth, which is a common failure mode for analysts of both sexes. So I don't know.
I think it is a mistake to take her analysis for granted and then extrapolate from her niche to the broader church.
But, in any case, the church exists to preach the gospel, to worship God, and to edify believers. None of those goals is really compatible with choosing your members to maximize your impact as a social club. If a church heeds Scripture in choosing its leaders, those will be men who have their acts together, judged by Christian standards rather than by secular ones.
The kind of people who insist on VIM over an IDE and will argue for days about whether Python private functions should be prefixed with underscore.
My people! If the world loses them, it will be poorer for it.
I am not a professional developer. But in my IT experience, it’s helpful to have a mix of wary skeptics and early adopters for many kinds of technology. Strongarming your skeptics before you have to is a mistake. And while I believe much that I’ve heard about the benefits of coding agents, nobody knows what the final picture will look like. The grumpy old fogeys aren’t prophets, and I am not saying that they are, but they come by their battle scars honestly.
To my recollection, the Romans and Etruscans had similar levels of IE vs EEF genes, but the Romans had an Indo-European language and the Etruscans did not. This may reflect a broader difference between the cultures, but of course their influence on one another was so enormous as to kind of muddle any early differences.
Quick edit: Ah, looks like SS's citation covers that.
I feel like this week has had a greater than usual number of weird, semi-hostile takes, but more than one have started subthreads that rewarded reading anyway. The initial posts were kind of rough to get through, and I didn’t have anything of value to add, but the other comments made it worth it.
But this sort of effort to milk the lolquokkas, or whatever – and I suspect it’s not the only one this week – poisons the well and erodes my willingness to endure my fellow weirdos’ off-the-wall rants, and that saddens me.
Thank you for all the yeoman’s modding, and for making the effort to make the call regardless. It’s appreciated.
Everybody is agreeing that the internship looks like the better offer given what you have said here, and I think they’re right. That said, I would put more weight on the particular teams and companies, if you know anything about them. Some teams will actively look to give juniors room to grow, and others will just install them as a cog in the machine and leave them there.
The modal pastor constantly thunders against fornicators...
This is not my experience. Most preach directly on the issue less than people assume (for good or ill), and when they do I usually wouldn't describe it as thundering – precisely because they know that's not what folks in their congregations usually need.
The closest I have seen to this are some youth pastors. When you are teaching a consistent age group, there is always a new cohort of kids that needs to be firmly reminded to keep its pants on. And that message is usually pretty empathetic, because they know how hard it is.
...and sinners (everyone in their audience)
I guess this could be described as thundering sometimes, as the law side of law and gospel. And "whiteness" is often described as something that can be repented of. So the analogy sort of works here. But without Jesus to bear anyone's sins, it's more of a racial Pelagianism.
And I say this as a man in his 50s who is engaged to a woman who is 18.
I certainly have no moral problem with that, provided you both have honorable intentions. But, on a prudential level, how are you thinking about your future marriage in the context of aging? A six-year gap may get smaller as a couple ages, but surely a thirty-five-ish–year gap will get larger; in thirty years you will be in your eighties and she in her forties.
I don’t mean this as a gotcha. I assume you have thought about this, and I am curious about those thoughts.
What would that look like? Some of the things he's done, notably on migration, necessarily involved picking fights with Brussels. Are those issues no longer salient for the EU leadership?
I am not super prone to motion sickness in general, but I have historically dealt with it in first-person video games. Modern, high-FPS (120+ frames per second) gaming monitors really do help.
Edit: Also, adaptive synchronization, where a game doesn't drop to a de facto 30 FPS as soon as it falls below 60, is a big part of that.
Those are important bugs, and I am glad they've been fixed. They demonstrate an impressive level of capability.
But I was picturing multiple simultaneous Spectres and Heartbleeds, which would have been horrifying. I am grateful that this is more wakeup-call tier.
Also I assume that this rests on a bedrock of "carbon dating is fake/wrong"?
Yes, young-earth creationists are skeptical of carbon dating as applied. Carbon dating relies on the ratio of Carbon-14 to Carbon-12 in the atmosphere being more or less constant, and YEC tends to doubt this. Among other things, assuming the level of cosmic radiation has remained consistent, an earth less than 10,000 years old should still be gaining more Carbon-14 than it loses to nuclear decay.
I am afraid I don’t know enough to critique or defend the objection intelligently. But since you asked, I summarize.
I guess there's also a possible world where The Indian Justice is actually intrigued and tries harder to come up with a theory that sort of comports with the gov't position and lets him give Native Americans 14A citizenship?
Indians were given citizenship by statute a century ago. Given that they're aIready citizens regardless, this hardly seems worth losing sleep over. I'm clearly missing a piece here. What else does this tie into?
And probably again after the flood, depending on the knowledge of Noah's sons
My curiosity is piqued. I couldn't find it, but if you have a link it'd be fun to watch.
As the gal in the story tells it, he has fallen prey to vice and she to folly.
I think there's a pretty strong argument to be made that it is easier to address folly than vice. But even if it isn't, it would be unsurprising if the two had very different explanations. And, for many vices, the temptation is obvious even to us who disapprove.
That said, there are two possibilities that could make them parallel in an interesting way. One is that her folly is motivated by vice; this is very plausible, and it would be easy to explain why the narrator left it out. The other is that her motive for folly is obvious to some distaff Mottizens in ways it isn't to other Mottizens of either sex; in that case it would be helpful to spell it out for us.
Do you know of a (trustworthy – that's the hard part) source for stats on this? My recollection is that women are more likely to lash out physically, but men are more likely to do injury, but women are more likely to use weapons. But I don't remember my source, and I find most sources on the issue to be at least a little questionable.
Come on, man. I know that creationists are one of the traditionally iconic outgroups in rationalist-adjacent spaces. And I find Hegseth pretty frustrating myself. But if you asked Pastor Doug Wilson (de facto leader of CREC) whether there have ever been any peoples without metallurgy, what do you think he'd say? Do you really think it would bother him at all?
Thank you. That explains some things about Internet distributists and also gives me some things to think over – not least the difference between red and blue state dynamics regarding your second paragraph.
You've lost me with the references to particular schools and thinkers. I can't promise to pick it up right away, but I'm likely to have some more reading time soon – is there a source you'd suggest starting with?
Reversing Roe v. Wade is a real win. Rooting out gender theory and DEI is a real win. Gutting much of the permanent bureaucracy, which drags society left regardless of the president, is costly but also a real win.
The folks who called even Mitt Romney a Nazi were going to throw mud at anyone who vaguely looked like he might try these things. Some of the criticism (not all) is genuinely deserved in Trump's case – but, deserved or not, it was already priced in.
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Isn't that adjustment extremely relevant here, though? If I were to define statutory rape of a teenager, I'd just call it seduction of a minor. Sexual morality is fundamentally tied up in defining the crime. The fact that much of secular society can't admit this muddles the conversation a lot.
Yeah, the practical consequences of seduction will vary for boys and girls, but in practice that seems to be (more than) adequately covered by consideration of mitigating factors in sentencing.
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