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CertainlyWorse

No one is coming to help. It's just you.

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One of the great unwashed.

https://youtube.com/watch?v=p_TLzmjbhG0&t=1368 I couldn't do this, but the philosophy is correct.

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One of the great unwashed.


https://youtube.com/watch?v=p_TLzmjbhG0&t=1368 I couldn't do this, but the philosophy is correct.



				

				
					
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				Wellness Wednesday for January 28, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I think its very important to get a mirror held up against yourself, and that's what I was looking for here.


There are certainly close friends in my life that are progressive that I'm holding detente with. I don't think I'm the only one here doing that.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 25, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I'm not an expert, so you'll have to do your own research with reviews unless someone chimes in here that they've gone through a few different brands.


I don't have a reference point for what is more comfortable. I would presume its just normal earbud vs over ear headphones.


Something I do like is that I can tolerate earbuds in bed with audio books before sleep if I'm on my back and for short periods on my side.


That's me though. I'm not ultra sensitive to physical discomfort.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I should have replied earlier.


The movie I want has unexpected twists and perhaps an unhappy ending. I'm expecting to be challenged and for them to hold a true mirror up.


Reality always wins, but its sometimes a bitter pill to swallow.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for January 28, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Well, I did the relationship therapist thing.


She was very competent and nothing I had to say surprised her. Very professional even though she was covered in tattoos. She knows her stuff, at least as far as I can see, and I can see pretty far for an amateur.


I'll post again once I get a result. One way or the other.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 25, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I see this all the time as a Principal/Agent variant. Something very useful that gets cut because it has no champion. Either that, or a load-bearing pillar of long term profitability gets cut for short term gains and some shark's KPI bonus. They then ghost before the long term consequences hit the company.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 25, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Do you carry a notebook in your satchel?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 25, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Wow, Grok is doing mechahitler images again. I put 'mechahitler in a bikini' in to check and certainly got a result (NSFW)


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 25, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Yep, I'm having all of the issues you've described, including problems with receiving audio from discord and games at the same time (even in 'AG' hands free mode).


I've made my peace with it. Pure noise cancelled audio with no comms is worth all of the problems.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 25, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I'd say in-ear earphones with solid ANC are up there




Haha, I read your first line, settled on my Quietcomfort 2 Bose Earpods and then came back to see I was 'right'.


The sound is awesome, but I found  it degrades to take calls as perhaps it needs bandwidth for the microphone.


Anyway, they had a pretty big QoL impact for things like commuting on public transport, or other environments where I could afford to sacrifice some situational awareness. The noise cancelling really allows for moments of peace (although I've had a girlfriend have to punch me on the arm to get my attention when I'm using them before sleep).


Edit: Some honorable mentions -


    

  • BPA free 2 Liter handled water bottle to carry around the house with me to stay hydrated.
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  • Kindle Paperwhite is an amazing ebook reader that eliminated a lot of eyestrain. Its backlight lets me read in the dark without disturbing others. It finally sold me on ebooks over paper (although I recently read a hardcover when I was on holiday and I kind of miss it).
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				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 26, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
He doesn't talk about the why. Perhaps he truly believes it is self evident. 'I was just on holiday and then the nazis came, so I became the resistance.'


Something that stuck out for me was the 'only arresting the worst of the worst 5-year-olds'. The father abandoned the 5 year old to abscond from ICE. The author pretends that ICE is killing people randomly, arresting the innocent (including children) and otherwise being horrible people.


People really believe this? Its truly 2 movies, 1 screen.


Peace will eventually come. Reality always wins.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
There's something to this. Death was meant to be suffered by the others. The Karen class as never meant to endure the ultimate consequences of their actions. No wonder so the post-shooting protests were so virulent. The group that makes up the majority of progressive organisers has finally been attacked.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Just like finding a good PCP that will actually listen to your concerns and tailor their advice/treatment to you accordingly, finding a good counselor that will do the same is possible (they exist!), but you might not necessarily find one your first time out of the gate, so I'd advise patience and willingness to go elsewhere to find a good fit. One other thing to address is that since you're doing individual counseling, as a rule good individual therapy will focus your needs, and any relationship counseling will come from the perspective of what is best for you, regardless of whether or not that's at odds with what is best for the relationship.




Yes, I've done therapy before so I'm pretty much expecting that the first counselor I try might not be a good fit. Especially considering its a woman.


I have had a good female counselor before, but considering the things I'm going to say, I just don't know if your average female counselor will be able to focus her empathy and bend her point of view enough to accommodate male needs in a relationship (emotional as well as physical). I'll see how I go, but at least I'm managing my expectations going in. If she doesn't work, I'll shop around to find a guy rather than wasting time and money trying multiple women.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


It is hard to get used to safely managing violence.




This is the core issue. Violence is easy. Minimal amount of violence necessary to achieve your goal, with the understanding your actions will be under the microscope in hindsight by others with all the time in the world is very difficult.


I have so much respect for healthcare security and medical staff for dealing with the worst of humanity.


Do you know what cops do when they assess that someone is out of their minds (either psychologically, or due to drugs)? They drop them off at the nearest ER, shrug, and say 'your problem now.' The worst types of criminals and mentally ill aren't dealt with by cops, but the healthcare system. The medical staff are meant to treat someone in a psychotic aggressive state without harming them or allowing themselves to come to harm. Imagine a George Floyd once a week except he's screaming and trying to bite your face off like a fast moving zombie from 28 Days Later.


Get it wrong and you've lost a digit, been stabbed with a junkie needle or are in fear of losing your job based on the outcome of an administrative panel review (that cares about the corporate image more than your wellbeing).


You couldn't pay me enough to do that.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I'll keep it in mind to build some rapport before dumping on them. Luckily I'm doing individual counseling only, so I won't need to worry about them taking sides. I'll be the only one they meet.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 5, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Because marriage is between a man and a woman straight up. Happy for them to have equal legal protection.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 11, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Does anyone have any advice around relationships counselors in Western countries? Particularly regarding 'counselors' (eg did a counseling course with accreditation) vs actual trained psychologists.
I'm looking at seeing one individually, but unsurprisingly there aren't any male counselors available so I'm trying my luck with a female one. I'm concerned that a woman won't be able to properly empathise with a male point of view, and might balk at certain 'how the sausage gets made' conversations.


This isn't for anything critical, just relationship advice regarding my specific situation (with details I wouldn't share here, even incognito).


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 5, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
The gay marriage debate was always built around forcing society to give gay unions as much respect and reverence as regular marriage. It's stolen valour. If they want those unions to be respected then they should prove it through example that they are serious partnerships meant to last for life. They know about the instability and promiscuity rife in gay relationships and the big question marks hanging over child rearing by gay parents, but want you to ignore all that because there are laws telling you to do so. You're meant to pretend its the same as an institution with more than 4000 years of history behind it.


Edit: Should make it clear I'm all for equal legal rights in gay unions. I'm just against calling it marriage.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 5, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I don't like the Babbitt shoot, but I could understand that in the moment, the police officer didn't see Babbitt, but a limb of an angry mob. It's the only way it makes sense to me outside of some weird castle doctrine defense. Babbitt of course was a clown to do what she did.


Notably in mid 2025 the govt settled a wrongful death suit with Babbitt's family for $5 million.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 5, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
There seems to be an uptick in women deliberately bringing their children to protests.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for January 9, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


travellers rest




For whatever reason I've got Innkeep on my wishlist. I really enjoyed Graveyard Keeper so was looking for something in that style.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for January 7, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I don't have a reference, just saying I felt that it helped my recovery. YMMV etc.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for January 9, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I always do the nasty option and reload. Things like selling your companions into slavery, or telling someone you are going to wear their head like they are wearing their hat.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for January 9, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I think of it as 'urban exploration gone wrong'. It starts out as a curious adventure and then you realise you can't backtrack due to a locked door or getting lost. A very mild anxiety sets in (mollified by the mundane banal surroundings) where you try to calmly start thinking through your options. You check your phone battery and its dead. Your loved ones won't be expecting you until tomorrow. Uh oh.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of January 5, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


If ICE employees want to be treated like cops, maybe they should act more like cops. Wear proper body cameras instead of using a cell phone, have their faces visible, and identify their name and badge number when asked. Then maybe people would feel that it's safe to surrender when "arrested" by them.




I agree with you 100% on the bodycams.


As for the rest, we've talked about this previously and why its a non-starter. The protestors are actively trying to dox and threaten the ICE agents.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for January 9, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
There are modding tools that will download a stack of mods almost automatically (need to click download for each if you dont have a nexusmods subscription) and load them in the correct order for you which makes things a lot easier these days. The base game sorely needed some QoL, Graphics and UI tweaks which Viva New Vegas does while leaving the story and experience intact. The modding scene seems alive and well.


I haven't looked at any larger story packs or anything, but I'm enjoying the current playthrough. The writing is great as are the branching pathways. You can really wreck things and do horrible things to people.