thrownaway24e89172
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thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
4d ago
Because now if a woman accused me of being a creep, it was her fault not mine. I don't know what it is, but women can smell when a guy doesn't want to have sex with them. It's so much easier to become a trusted-man around them. I surely lost out on opportunities to sleep with women close to me, but it made me comfortable around them. Exposure therapy works.
Until you run into the women that decide that since you aren't interested they are free to sexually harass you...
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
4d ago
Adoption is an even worse offender if you take this line of thinking. At least with surrogacy the client is usually genetically related to the children.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
5d ago
That said, I absolutely believe #killallmen posters are almost entirely performative, whereas Joo-posters are not.
I'm not so sure of this. Men are significantly more likely to be victims of homicide than women, particularly when accused of victimizing a woman. I think there's a very good argument to be made that use of #killallmen is at the very least intentionally reinforcing that particular inequality to hang a sword of Damocles over men in an effort to control their behavior.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
5d ago
So you are saying our local Jew haters are to Jews as anti-racists are to whites? As feminists are to men? This kind of overly broad demographic-based not-quite-a-conspiracy thinking is rather common in the US today.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
14d ago
Men submit to their partner's control over their social lives to keep the peace. "Happy wife, happy life". They are "happy" not because they are grateful their wives are taking on this "burden" for them, but because submitting to their wives' control in this regard avoids conflict. Men are expected to give up their social lives and prioritize their wives.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
14d ago
Isn't it amazing how "happy" people can be when they do what their abuser wants rather than defying them?
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
15d ago
I think I'd distinguish between being able to prepare a meal and being able to cook. I can prepare simple meals without a recipe and moderately more complicated ones with, but I would still describe myself as not being able to cook. I don't have the knowledge nor inclination to stray far from known recipes, and while I enjoy the results I very rarely enjoy the process. My wife on the other hand can take pretty much anything lying around in the kitchen and make an at least palatable meal out of it and almost never follows recipes even when it is her first time making a dish. She both has the knowledge and experience to make things up on the fly and enjoys the process nearly as much as the end result. I don't know exactly where the boundary between being able to cook and not being able to lies, but I'd put it somewhere between us.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
16d ago
I think one plausible explanation of this being "100% downstream from men watching porn" is that it is that the porn is making more sexual activities seem boringly normal and the women are getting off not to the degradation but to the idea that their partner's love for them is extreme. Thus as more extreme sexual behaviors are normalized they need to push the boundaries even further to get that adventurous kick.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
17d ago
It is a privacy violation with the purpose of deterring adults pretending to be an age verification law. "Think of the children" is as usual nothing more than a cover story. As Kagan notes, if it were just an "age verification law" and the impact on adults was as minimal as possible while still achieving the goal of deterring youths then the law would survive strict scrutiny and the majority wouldn't have had to twist itself to support lower scrutiny.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
18d ago
what I will never understand is how huge numbers of women were convinced by it.
What's so hard to understand? The promise of sex is something women can use to exploit men. Many women wanted to be able to more freely exploit men in this way without realizing men would also be more free to exploit them in return.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
18d ago
What does it even mean to be "equals in dignity" though if inequality at the group level justifies disparate treatment of equals at the individual level?
Society doesn't back up men who are so lacking in confidence, so why should it back up women? They are supposedly our equals. Why can't they be expected to stand up for themselves or suffer the consequences the way we are?
EDIT: Grammar.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
21d ago
I was raised evangelical and converted to Orthodoxy and have never heard it suggested that swearing is somehow implicitly sinful. An argument sure can be made that it is in most particular instances, but that would be according to logic that would, as you'd have it, be coherent to materialists.
I was taught that swearing with words or phrases that invoke God are implicitly sinful (eg, all variants of "damn"), while others are merely signs of bad character (eg, "shit", "fuck").
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
25d ago
No. Shared parenthood without marriage too easily degrades into single parenthood as the parents are incentivized to sabotage each other to go about their lives independently. Even if it doesn't, being "shared" by two independent households is harmful to children. The default needs to be at least cohabitation and a binding relationship, with the possibility for the courts to adjudicate abnormal situations.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
25d ago
No, it has everything to do with this scenario. Right now the default is single motherhood and the father has to fight in court to change this default. This would make it so that the default is shared parenthood and the mother has to fight in court to change it. She still could be a single mother if she convinces the court that his behavior is bad enough to warrant divorce, but that requires actually demonstrating his bad behavior rather than simply her not wanting to cooperate with him.
In my experience the much more frequent cause of single motherhood is not that the father is a net negative but that the mother is and society is so blinded by unwarranted sympathy for her that it refuses to do anything about it nor let the father, leaving the child to suffer while the mother's poor behavior is continually subsidized.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
26d ago
Too bad. Vanishingly few would truly rather be a single mother--rather they expect the benefits men normally bring to relationships be provided by society so they don't have to suffer the compromises necessary to make a relationship work. Such selfish entitlement shouldn't be encouraged by society.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
26d ago
Much of the motivation for abortion comes from women not wanting to be single mothers. You can respond to this in two ways:
There's at least one more possible response:
3. Bring back shotgun marriages. Make impregnation result in an automatic marriage and enforce much stricter rules for divorce in such marriages.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
Idk maybe I'm not cynical enough but it seems genuine to me? Then again some people do seem to think she's a sort of master manipulator.
These aren't mutually exclusive. If anything I'd argue the best manipulators are often those who don't consciously recognize their behavior as manipulative.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
I am not. And this question was quite serious. I've long struggled with keeping up exercise routines because I find it hard to keep motivated due to the lack of noticeable rewards, even ones so minor as "a feeling of accomplishment" after finishing.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
Positive discipline activities give you a generous feeling of accomplishment and instant reward. "I worked out today!"
Do people really feel this way about exercise? To me it always feels like pointless effort for a reward that never comes. It's a hopeless fight to slow the pace of inevitable regression.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
If you're a stereotypical man who has outsourced the work of maintaining his social life to his wife for a decade
I love how we frame women controlling their partners' social lives as a burden while when men do it to their partners it is framed as abuse.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
I think the biggest difference is male aggression toward women is usually physical while female aggression towards men is usually social, most notably attempted social ostracization. Women attack men's social bonds in ways that men don't attack women's, thus leading to this asymmetry.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
Just as we're more concerned with female vulnerability due to men's physical aggression, I'd argue another big contributor to our concern about male loneliness is the fact that female aggression tends to manifest socially, particularly via ostracization of the target.
This of course ignores that "gender roles" exist to protect women due to the "unique vulnerability of female bodies". The actual TERF position is thus that women shouldn't have to suffer restrictions due to this unique vulnerability and the restrictions, ie "gender roles", should fall primarily or exclusively on men.
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