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5d ago
For sure, I'm definitely consuming too much protein but that's not the worst problem to have. I'm trying to overcompensate for having only around 60% come from perfect protein sources like chicken, the rest comes from incomplete slop. Like I said, the hard part has been carbs. Protein and fats are a solved problem, for now.
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6d ago
I am aware, but it doesn't help building muscle either. I eat 165gr of protein, 360gr of carbs and 75 grams of fat daily. The hard part is hitting the carbs, not fat. I should've went with my macros in the original post rather than calories.
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6d ago
2 pounds of good cheese is also 4-5 days worth of my target fat intake. I'm trying to gain muscle, not fat.
Been trying to slow bulk for the past 2 months. Thought I was doing alright, occasionally weighing myself here and there and seeing +2-3 lbs gained so far. Week ago finally decided to weigh myself on fully empty stomach - +3.2oz net gain. Upped my daily intake from 2.5k calories to 2.7k now and it's been hell. 2.5k was already tough, but manageable, and 2.7k is hell. I pretty much eat something every other hour from 11am til 8pm and still often fall 50-75 cals short. Don't know if I can keep this going without succumbing to mass gainers. I've already started eating more dirty - ice cream daily, welch's 'fruit' snacks daily, but it's still difficult. The times when I was cutting and only eating 2k calories a day were so much easier, I just had to have a light breakfast, 1 heavy meal and 1 snack and all my needs were taken care of, I miss it.
You should try Codex $100 subscription. Took me a long time to outgrow it, it was more than enough for a long time, I only decided to upgrade once I started working on 3 projects simultaneously. And it doesn't have a 5 hour limit anymore, it's just 1 week long limit and that's it
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12d ago
One thing I asked myself is Bill Gates attractive? Honestly seems like a stupid question, but I was looking at his daughter Phoebe Gates who’s in the news for doing fraud. And she’s hot.
Is she hot or is she young, thin and rich? As I've gotten older, I'm 28, I've realized all a woman has to do to look good at 18-25 is to not be fat and know how to do her makeup. After 25, it slowly starts getting harder, youtful look is gone, aging genetics kick in, years of bad habits start to slowly add up.
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17d ago
I have a friend that works Doordash/Uber eats in a big city as his main source of income. I don't know how much he makes, but it's enough to have a $1900/m apartment, a tesla on a loan, photography as a hobby, a non working girlfriend. He does it 4 times a week, full day morning to night shifts. Specifically targets wealthy high density areas, otherwise income pretty much halves due to less tips.
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23d ago
For somebody who has that extreme level of risk aversion, what options are there that beat a HYSA? Browbeating her into equities isn't going to fly.
There's really not much if you want a hands off experience. If you live in a state with income tax, perhaps look into municipal bonds that offer tax exemption, that's about it.
I have experience with slowly convincing my father from only ever investing into real estate and never using a credit card to having around 25% of his networth in equities and putting everything through 2% credit card. It took a few years, but you just gotta be persistent. Combination of him seeing me do well with equities and seeing non stop SPX ATHs on the news did their thing over time. He started off with a $10k investment and once he saw the green numbers, it was easier to convince him to put in more. You really just gotta have her start and the green numbers will do the rest. Monkey brain loves seeing green number.
I don't use credit cards outside of the bare minimum necessary to keep them active.
I really don't understand this aversion of credit cards from some people. Do you believe you're so bad at controlling yourself that you will spend more than you can afford if you use a credit card?
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23d ago
With condos specifically, look at HOA dues, reserves, info about special assessments (last time one was done, any plans to have one in the near future), and if HOA outsources management. I cannot stress this enough - HOA makes or breaks value of any condo. There's so many ways HOA could be mismanaged, from a few motivated boomers on the board strongarming to suppress monthly dues, which causes reserves to be insufficient a decade later, to hiring a 3rd party management company that charges you $80/hr any time you email HOA with a question or hires the most expensive person (because they get kickback) every time ANYTHING needs to be done. Once I've seen an owner have a huge legal battle with HOA - guess where the money comes from to pay those legal fees? Also look at renting rules, a lot of HOAs, especially the ones with a lot of boomers on the board, have rental caps (certain % of all units can be rented out at any time) - that affects the value significantly since a lot of people buy condos as an investment and it's a trash investment when you're beholden to HOA on whether you can rent out your own property.
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24d ago
All you gotta do is drop the habit for a few months, you'll definitely be able to feel it. I used to have consistently poor sleep for years and never fully felt like it was affecting me. Now, I've finally found a routine that works for me and I can feel the difference 1 night of poor sleep makes. You just get used to feeling shit everyday, it becomes the new normal pretty quick.
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24d ago
I definitely tasted the sugar but didn't connect 2 and 2 together because I was already set on thinking that it was sugar free version in the moment. Only noticed the label when I was throwing the bottles away. Don't drink soda enough to realize the only noticeable difference is bottle cap color.
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27d ago
One evening this week I drank 2 16oz bottles of regular sprite thinking it was sugar free version. Woke up the next day feeling like a train ran me over. Incredible how much of an impact something so minor has, genuinely felt sluggish the whole day.
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1mo ago
As someone with social anxiety, weed gives me tachycardia and makes me extremely paranoid. I've tried different strengths and strains, the outcome is roughly the same more or less.
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1mo ago
I grant myself one cheat day a week.
be careful. You can easily undo weeks worth of progress by one cheat day, especially if you're too harsh with your diet throughout the week, which would make your cravings stronger. You can consume whatever you want, the most important thing is your caloric intake/macros. I ate whatever I wanted when I was on a caloric deficit for 4 months, the 'bad' food was frontloaded at the start of the day so that it was easier for me to keep track. For example, if I wanted a piece of cake, I would eat in the morning and the rest of the meals would be a bit lower fat than usual since cake is high in fat. A little bit of foresight goes a long way.
I also suggest a 45-60 minute walk 2-3 times a week, it would speed up your results by 20-30%, not to mention all the other health benefits.
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1mo ago
Or perhaps he's making that post because every night his mind is racing and stomach's turning because SNDK is down 40% and he's wondering if he should hop off the train now ha
I used to resell things on ebay. Product acquisition was mostly automated through bots, so packing and shipping out orders was the most time consuming thing, perhaps ~8 hours/week. Profits would vary a lot, but average would be around $2.5k per month. Pretty easy and brainless stuff, but often times inventory would sit for a few weeks/months taking up a lot of space, so it got annoying.
At this point, the obvious thing to do is to take some chips off the table, but the tricky part is that part of me thinks that AI is more than just a bubble, that it will have economic impacts which make the Internet seem like pet rocks, hula hoops, and Dutch tulip bulbs.
This can be true at the same time as your investment declining/underperforming. You're not betting purely on AI being more than just a bubble, you're betting on this specific list of companies continuing to benefit off this narrative. Realistically, you caught a huge chunk of the move already, missing another 2x from here may sting but if you exit now you're booking solid profits and the money you take off (minus taxes) can be distributed into other assets that will still continue appreciating.
In general, I think it's a good time to start taking some chips off the table when you start having urges to post something like this. $4m being slight majority of your portfolio, you must be worth around $7m? The volatility of AI stocks is insane, will you able to stomach 30-60% drawdowns? Has the idea of having this net worth set in as new baseline in your mind? Only you can answer these questions. If I was in this situation, I'd take off 50-60% here, put it in the bank for a month or two, get used to seeing this number. And only then start thinking what to do with it.
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1mo ago
Given your circumstances, stop worrying about it until you get to college. When in college, get 2-3 female friends that you won't try to get romantically entangled with. Use them to learn how to be comfortable around women as a man, learn how to drop the "I'm not like all the other normies" mentality that you mentioned in other replies, even if you're not like them, you're probably overestimating how different you're anyway, that's how most people are and you're going to be surrounded by people like that your whole life anyway, so just accept it. Stop disqualifying yourself with premade assumptions (too conservative, too liberal, blah blah blah) from social situations, treat everything as an opportunity to get better. Eventually, everything will fall into place. You'll level up your social skills, your women friends will be your social proof that you're normal and will likely help you find someone to date. Good luck
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2mo ago
Oh man, almost felt like it was my writing, that's how similar your situation is to mine.
Any time I expressed grievances over a comment or behavior I perceived to be denigrating, my parents shielded themselves behind this
She would often treat 16/17 year old me as a marriage counselor after her argument du jour with my father
she sat me down to talk she asked for examples of what she’s done in my childhood that I found hurtful
This and so much more. To this day, I still feel guilt whenever they ask me if they were good parents because the answer is no, but they'll never understand why because to them they did everything right. They fed me, provided me roof over my head, gave me education, and steered me away from bad outcomes. Lack of nonmaterial parts of the relationship doesn't count to them.
Things will definitely get better for you as you get older and set some distance from them though. I personally gave up on trying to get them to understand, but it's okay. My advice - take advantage of whatever material help they offer even if they try holding it over your head, that's the only way they know how to show love and they will hold your childhood over your head anyway, so may as well just take it.
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2mo ago
You'll be fine, it will correct itself in the coming months. Just keep utilization low and don't open new cards. My credit score fluctuates by 60-80 points due to utilization all the time.
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2mo ago
I highly suggest zone 2 walking for your case. A 45-60 minute walk will do you more good than a gym session at this weight and given your aversion to discomfort, you're probably more likely to stick to a 1 hour walk (free, literally just step outside and move your feet) than a gym session (costs money, probably have to drive there, takes way longer than 1 hr, have to interact with people). Could probably leave the gym out until you lose 100lbs or so, just walk at fast enough pace where you're right on the edge of not being able to hold a conversation.
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2mo ago
Ideally, I imagine you and your (to be) wife have to be on the same page in terms of goals. And if you're so entirely off base from each other, it's probably not a good idea to get entangled legally with that person. If you're a hermit that wants to live in spartan conditions, while your wife longs for instagrammable lifestyle, it was never bound to work. But if you're a stingy nerd that has a wardrobe of 5 identical t shirts and doesn't like leaving the house, while your wife prefers a hike on the weekends and 2 international trips a year, it would definitely be possible to find middle ground (because her expectations are pretty reasonable and you can definitely afford it). And for the income gap, how do you plan to divide up your finances once married if that's such a concern for you? I'm not married myself, but I know some couples with disproportionate income gaps and the usual set up is that her money is her money and your money is collective money. And it makes sense when one person is making $700k and the other is making $40k. Your income gap wouldn't be as dramatic, but I imagine this informal arrangement would still hold up in some form - expect to pay more for things, even for stuff you wouldn't buy yourself if you were on your own.
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2mo ago
So what is exactly your main complaint here? Members of the upper class attending prestigious events, while not being true fans? Theater kids performing for the camera?
The other thing is it’s the blackification of celebration. Where you need to do things loud and visually to show how much it means to you. Yes I am now the old man who yells at clouds.
Half the arena for the Knicks game was suits/finance bros pretending expression of emotion was beneath them. You didn't see reels of them because it's fucking boring. Why is this even a complaint again? I remember the eccentric and extraverted kids always being in the spotlight starting from kindergarten. You wouldn't have written this post if everyone behaved like the boring suits. If anything, you're signal boosting the "black" way of celebration by posting this.
The other interesting sports related thing is the bifurcation of the ticket market for sporting events.
The K-shapifaction of economy is doing it's thing, but why are you acting that hasn't been this way since forever? I'm sure a gladiator event with top gladiator talent and with an emperor in attendance would attract a lot more heads than any other gladiator event in Ancient Rome too. Do you expect an even distribution in demand for lower tier sporting events/matchups?
No specific reason, just trying to eat healthy whole foods as principle.
That's roughly my routine now, it's annoying. I go to the gym early midday, I try to not stuff my face before then, so breakfast is only 500-600 cals. Quick carb snack right before gym 100-200 cals. Then a quick carb snack right after gym 100-200 cals. Then late lunch at around 3-4pm 800-1000 cals. Then dinner 800-1000 cals at 6-7pm. And finally, if there's any leftover macros to hit, quick snack at 8:30pm latest. I pretty much get like 30-90 minutes in between food breaks, it's not ideal. Comparing it to when I was at 2k cals: medium breakfast before gym, 1 huge late lunch/early dinner, evening snack. That's it, all needs covered. Food was an afterthought, now it's a big part of my day.
I don't think I'll have that problem - I naturally don't eat enough if I don't count my calories unless I'm abusing uber eats.
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