it_is_so_weird_to_be
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it_is_so_weird_to_be
11d ago
...men who no longer exist and do not complain about this topic today (or maybe they do in their nursing homes). I guess I don't get your point. Because some people were shitty back then it justifies other people doing shitty things today?
it_is_so_weird_to_be
11d ago
No drugs? That's no fun. I'd swap that for "nice to me".
it_is_so_weird_to_be
11d ago
Would you say that those men were acting in a noble and becoming manner? If yes, good riddance to you. If not, then you should ponder why you feel the need to giggle about men (who have never lived in that world or acted in that way) getting a taste of medicine.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
11d ago
Absolutely seeing this trend. It's happened to me and many of my male friends and acquaintances. Best friend's wife of 15 years left out of the blue, zero reasons given aside from a comment of "you're too negative". Another friend's wife decided she was a lesbian, having been married to a him for 10+ years. I was engaged to be married and the woman decided she wasn't attracted to me, after being together for years.
Fundamentally, I think there is a "Netflix" mindset going on. Like how you turn on Netflix, scroll through the shows and maybe something catches your eye for a minute so you watch the intro. But then the actors or soundtrack kind of annoys you or whatever, so you just go back to scrolling for another show. This has permeated the culture. We are all about quick dopamine reward. Our media consumption is short form, endlessly scrolling, outrageous by necessity. Women feel this in particular as massive consumers of social media, and they are also fed vastly different content on these platforms than men. They're validated endlessly and gassed up. They are told, and they know, they can get a man at any moment, and so they seek the neurochemical hit and then discard quickly as soon as it becomes real, in search of the next hit.
It's fundamentally broken. I'm a 36 year old man, have been in several long term relationships, most recent one ended a while back after she became physically abusive to me. I started dating earlier this year and it's been disgusting. I used to want a wife and a family but I have given up on that dream.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
5mo ago
As well if you assign 0 value to a safe and clean environment to your city, you can contort yourself into supporting any number of asinine and ineffective policies.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
5mo ago
Perhaps you aren't a bad person for not caring about removing these vagrants by any means necessary, perhaps you're a good person for wanting to preserve safe and clean public spaces for your community to enjoy together.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
5mo ago
I'd love it if you posted more about your experiences with adoption/fostering.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
5mo ago
In my western state, there are NGOs specifically targeting african "refugees", shipping them in, and putting them in city subsidized housing. There are tons of africans that run around my neighborhood, more every year. The women walk to the grocery store in 100+ degree weather in their full traditional garb, walking back with the grocery bags balanced on their heads.
If it were limited to hispanics I'd be marginally fine with it. I am quite fond of latin culture, language, food, etc. They mostly assimilate, are catholic, and care about the same things I do. But it's fucking bizarre when my neighbors walk their dogs and the african muslims run to the other side of the street to avoid the unclean canines. Or how their corner of the neighborhood is consistently littered with trash and old furniture in the streets. Our community does a neighborhood cleanup and we just go straight to the african housing. Meanwhile the men sit on their porches watching us whiteys pick up their filth, probably confused at why we would care about things like clean streets.
Then you hear of the haitians descending upon small communities in ohio or minnesota being full of somalians. This is coming to the US and rapidly. The hordes want to live among the whites because the whites create pleasant communities. Five years ago, there were nearly none of these people around here. Now there are tons, and the neighborhoods are deteriorating before my eyes.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
6mo ago
It's interesting because eating food "just for the taste" is in a way affirming the evolutionary reason. Our taste buds evolved for a reason. Just because we've figured out how to make some tasty foods that lack nutrition doesn't mean we like to eat doritos despite our evolution. Our bodies literally think we are getting nutrition when we seek that out.
Likewise, a woman painting her face and dressing scantily may tell herself it's for her own confidence or whatever. But it doesn't refute that she's doing it for male attention and reproductive success. I think the audience discussion is a bit of a red herring, although there are some interesting points to be made there.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
6mo ago
This is honestly the most convincing theory.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
6mo ago
There's paranoia and then there's simply asking what a man would get out of it, and in particular a billionaire in his 60s.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
6mo ago
What exactly does Bezos gain from being married again?
it_is_so_weird_to_be
6mo ago
Schopenhauer "Essays and Aphorisms"
it_is_so_weird_to_be
7mo ago
Man - bring in credit card rewards and we're almost back to the glory days of points churning
it_is_so_weird_to_be
7mo ago
True. In the years since I’ve discovered that when online dating, I get posted on private Facebook groups for women. My ex then shows up to talk mad shit including completely fabricating scenarios that didn’t happen. Social ostracization in action.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
7mo ago
I saw this when my ex fiancée ended things abruptly and without explanation. We had been planning our family and kids and home and such. After the split she gained tons of weight, dyed her hair and got tons of tattoos, is stuck in a dead end job now, and apparently is constantly flooding social media with leftist shit. Her family doesn’t know what happened either because she cut them off at the same time.
I chalked it up to people being weird, but then I met a new friend in town and found out almost the exact same thing happened to him this year. Then I met a third dude whose wife left him and blew up her life and he has been watching her spiral. Then I learned a fourth guy who I have known for a while had a similar story and I had to throw my hands up. These are men I met through a diverse set of circumstances: mountain biking, remote worker meetups, church, etc.
I do think with this topic, there is a gendered problem underlying it all. I read a lot about the male loneliness crisis, or think pieces on why men are dropping out of the dating pool and I can’t help but draw nebulous connections with these experiences. I don’t know if it’s feminism’s fruits, being over medicated on ssris and birth control, or the neutering of men in society, but something is broken.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
7mo ago
Relevant tweet https://x.com/constantutional/status/1930247522401890634
This intuitively makes sense to me. Women see pregnancy as inherited devaluing, so maintaining control over it is of utmost importance.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
7mo ago
Yes, they're off-putting. The septum makes me think of leading around a cow on my dad's farm, tongues seem very unsanitary and it fucks with their speech, and gauges (particularly very large ones) are super gross when the jewelry isn't in.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
8mo ago
I like making stained glass. Cutting the glass, grinding them, foiling, soldering them together. It is such a great and unique gift to give to people, and really exercises my brain in multiple ways. Precision is very important, also thinking ahead multiple steps, plus it stimulates my appreciation of aesthetics. It's a great hobby.
I've had some challenges to overcome specifically at the grinding step. During this step you grind the edges of the cut class pieces to ensure you have a consistent surface to adhere the copper foil to and ensure your pieces are the precise shape you want them to be. But I've had issues because my template pieces I've typically printed out on sticker paper using a regular printer. Problem is during the grinding process the water involved causes my templates to loosen and shift around. I've tried smearing vaseline on the pieces to make them a bit more waterproof, but it's not a great system.
So I've purchased a cutting machine akin to the popular "cricut" machines, but without their walled garden of paid software. The idea is that I can use waterproof vinyl stickers to adhere to the glass instead of paper. The precision of the machine will also help because there's some leeway when cutting using scissors that leads to weird gaps later in the process. I've been having trouble figuring out how to use the thing though. It's called a silhouette. I'm sure I'll figure it out at some point.
Anyway, I just wanted to see if anyone else has this hobby.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
8mo ago
No judge is going to undo a done deal for the benefit of some strangers
... Well at least one would as it seems in this case
it_is_so_weird_to_be
9mo ago
In her 70s with health problems. She has decent health coverage with medicare and a private supplemental.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
9mo ago
I've found myself in the position of being responsible for my elderly mother's finances. She has 800k to her name and has to earn approximately 20k per year off of it for necessary expenses.
I have a totally different risk tolerance in my station of life than she does, so all of my knowledge kind of goes out the window.
For now I have about 300k of her money in a HYSA, earning 4%. Not really sure where to park the rest.
JP Morgan keeps hassling her about some of their managed funds. Gotta admit I'm kind of attracted to allowing them to manage it (with a 1.3% fee though). They also are pushing an annuity which I just went ahead and declined.
If I just put everything into a CD at this point, it'll more than cover her expenses, but who knows what rates will do in the future and it seems like leaving money on the table (which at her age might be fine to buy some security). Also, she'd love to maintain as much as possible to leave to her 4 children. How would you handle this?
it_is_so_weird_to_be
10mo ago
One of the things I was pretty interested in when visiting various less developed nations is that there was a surprising lack of visible homelessness. Example: Thailand. There were no homeless on the streets outside of extremely and visibly disabled people (missing arms/legs/eyes, severe mental disabilities, etc). I suppose it's easy to stay off the streets if you can just go buy some coconuts and sell the juice on the street without a gaggle of PMCs following you around issuing fines. The barrier to entry for commerce seemed to be minimal at the actual worst.
Now I look at the US with many of its large cities overrun with homeless encampments, hear about bullshit like some jurisdictions enforcing a "flower arrangement license" and it really makes me disgusted at the evil we have wrought.
it_is_so_weird_to_be
11mo ago
It's a good point.
I am skeptical about the thought of raising a child without a mother in the home.
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