YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
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YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
6d ago
I’m not sure i would ever suggest otherwise, though maybe not in the way you are suggesting.
Liberalism was birthed from the centuries of religious sectarianism in Europe. Christianity is a universalist belief system. All of its offshoots are viciously universalist towards each other. White English Protestants killing White English catholics, Anglicans versus Presbyterian, French Catholics and Huguenots, Anabaptists versus other Protestants, etc. For liberalism critics I challenge you to explain what value differences all these different branches of Christianity have that prevented them from tolerating each other?
Liberalism was the system that developed the equilibrium.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
6d ago
I don't intend to change my mindset, when its everyone else's mindset that sucks.
Cognitive rigidity is a choice. You should get over it. You can be happy or you can be right, which would you prefer?
You might not say it around women you are interested in, but what about friends? Their partners? People talk, I’m not sure about your personal platonic ecosystem but are you really so spoilt for choice that you can afford to burn bridges and close doors of opportunity?
Trad women don’t want to date men who express controlling-abuse red flags, doing so puts them in a worse position. When you explain your thoughts it comes off much more mild, thus its a signaling problem.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
6d ago
This is more of an aside, but it’s tangentially related to signaling problems.
Women who are trad lifestyle oriented are looking for signals that predict convergences to negative outcomes for their specific locality’s. Global red flags are a thing but local, contextual red flags are more tightly watched for. When you talk about control you evoke that local contextual red flag for trad behavior. Even if you never say it out loud those sort of ideas have a way of leaking into social responses that women are far more intuitive at picking up. I’d recommend you change your mindset about around it, let go of your own desires for control and converge to value-basis belief.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
7d ago
Right but that would violate the sanctity of marriage that I am assuming he values. It's a rock and a hard place. I've observed he feels powerless about it. Leading to control issues creating a negative feedback loop. The ironic thing is that this would easily be resolved by just filtering for women that already have a similar outlook/values system. No need for the control if they already agree with and value your opinion.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
7d ago
You are supposed to look for women who value their husbands opinions, and they themselves don't value those things. Then give your opinion, but leave the ultimate decision authority to the individual. The problem is that what you've stated in this comment and the previous comment around "control" aren't really the same thing. This is pretty much the same thing as women who date abusive deadbeats, it's about vetting. You need to vet women for a propensity to do the above, and even if you have this meager dating pool, toss out the ones that would... have some standards.
Authentic choice is the most costly signal of all.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
7d ago
Don't lay this at the feet of liberalism. The problem is several universalist beliefs systems have formed due to liberalism's permissiveness. These universalist beliefs are zero-sum and require their adherents to both proselytize and interfere with other groups values systems. In a vacuum these belief systems are effective at outcompeting "liberalism" in peaceful ways but their main problem is they can't outcompete each other without violence. Liberalism is a stable solution within a particular value substrate that acts as an additive transformation to myriad existing beliefs, requiring them to adopt a particular value base in regards to divergent belief systems around acceptance and non-universality. Merely add that substrate to your beliefs, keep to your own community, and voila problem solved, no violence. However you can outcompete that by being the only universalist game in town. However belief systems exist in a reactive state, so the rise of one universalist belief begets others, which leads us back to the cycle of violence until everyone "rediscovers" the Chesterton's fence of the liberalism substrate.
Why do human's keep returning to universalist beliefs? Because we are dumb tribal simians and the spite and anger we get at targeting outgroups is a drug addiction beyond heroin. We are pretty much fucked as a species, we can't outgrow our firmware, and most of us just want to sit in the trees and hoot about that other group that looks slightly different to us.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
7d ago
I will get a final say in how she dresses and maintains herself.
I know probably two handfuls of couples that engage in trad gender roles, where the man is the provider, both lefties and righties. I think this is probably the biggest dealbreaker I've ever heard. There is a charitable interpretation that is barely acceptable in regards to a joint physically fit lifestyle or jointly modest/religious lifestyle but I think this is going to be a huge constraint for you. People just don't like others having control over their bodies. You are better off looking for values a partner should have that would lead them to converging to your "final say" rather than explicitly trying to exercise the control.
I see this arrangement as utterly fair and equitable for any woman
I'm sure, most people think they are giving folks grand ol deals.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
7d ago
They definitely like to think so. Empirically they are the most money and status oriented at this point. Whether that translates into technical skill is unclear but it probably has some positive correlation.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
9d ago
I’ve been really interested in the idea of community token budgets - as models are more able to do things autonomously, the limiting factor is token cost. I think it’d be cool to replace the Patreon with something that serves as a bucket for AI token cost for site improvements.
I pay for ChatGPT Plus (and somehow seem to have access to 5.6) and almost never hit even half of my token limit. I'd be very willing to donate usage somehow for site improvements or community needs. Idk how people use that many tokens.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
12d ago
Then, iconoclast was completely normal western liberal morality, and the game doesn't punish you for picking those options, so why not pick them?
The Void Shadows DLC takes advantage of the iconoclast naiveté very well. It absolutely punishes you for it, in very hilarious ways. The in-game lore optimal route is probably a mix of dogmatic and iconoclast. I agree that heretic is chaotic evil straight off of the bat, it would have been nicer to have different flavors of evil as well, or a slow build up. I don't think Owlcat's writing is particularly good, but I do appreciate that it doesn't morally railroad you in quite the same way as something like BG3.
I think with the DLCs increasing the number of alignment points that are available, you don't need to go hard down one path to be able to reach the end trees, allowing you to kinda set the pace in your own story a bit more.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
12d ago
you have any idea of how the universe functions
The fun part is you can role play as not knowing. Dogmatic is often the smart way to play but playing as a heretic is enjoyable, and trying to thread the needle on iconoclast between stupid and non-zealot is fun.
I will never forgive Games Workshop for denying us a romance route with the Sisters of Battle
I just want to romance my cog boys. Argenta is whatever.
I did RT then WoTR so that probably colors my opinion. I really hated the army part of WoTR. I think the planet exploration is just a better version of it, and the battles are better. I noticed the rails in both, WOTR just had more "options". I think I also just like the 40k setting more than generic D&D fantasy setting. But I've definitely had some friends with your opinion, I think its just a matter of taste.
Also I like doing character builds more than story which might impact it a bit. I mostly replay to try different compositions and builds.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
12d ago
lol typo.
Playing the new-ish Rogue Trader Trazyn DLC. Owlcat does make a nice CRPG. I'm trying to go for a balanced alignment run where I don't exceed rank 2 in any alignment. They show a mirror universe character with that affliction but I'm not sure its possible with all the colony buildings.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
15d ago
My more experienced friends tell me I should probably just build a new house somewhere else. Apparently the problem I'm having may be a quirk of two small black forest biomes near my house. The game seems to want a bear in each of them at all times, whereas when I go and explore larger black forest biomes bears don't seem very common at all.
I would agree with them, I just got back into valheim, I do not encounter a time consuming amount of bears in the meadows or BF. I'm a bit past those biomes now, but my lumber yard is in a BF biome and I still sail through a BF to get back to my original safe meadows base. Not a lot of bear encounters...
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
15d ago
This is a pretty uncharitable take accusing someone else of an uncharitable take. "I want my neighbors to look and act like me" comes off as I want my neighbors to be my same race, and socioeconomic status, go to the same church, and believe in the same creeds as me. That is conformist, extreme might be hyperbole but it is undoubtedly a conformist opinion on the level that conservative often decry when assigned by outside interlocutors.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
17d ago
not a prog but yes, my understanding is that its an equality of outcome type phenomenon. If people were truly equal then the outcomes would also be equal and the fact that they are not is representation of some hidden inequality that we just can't see yet.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
22d ago
Most ‘accidental Americans’ are not accidental at all. There’s a huge growth industry of third world PMCs flying to the US to give birth so their kids get citizenship.
This is a fairly strong claim, is there any evidence for it happening at industrial scale? There are interesting left-wing arguments that could be made if its true but you would need evidence that its more than just a conspiracy theory.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
27d ago
I just went and replayed Civ V this evening and it gave me a good perspective on all the things Civ 6 and Civ 7 have done better that I should be greatful for.
I think the towns and cities distinction is far more interesting than the cities only. The pointlessness of most luxury resources other than just box checking was improved upon. Weather and terrain effects were good. I think adjacency bonuses make for a more interesting settling dynamic around city planning and location, beyond the usual "find a 3 radius that doesn't overlap" or a strategic choke point. Culture is actually a bit more interesting, it's not just a collect resource-take bonus. I think 7 created the Culture Tree "tech" tree and separated it from the Science Tech Tree. I find that much more challenging, enjoyable and allows for greater complexity of play. It also helped the wonder spamming problem by splitting wonders. Actually having to place the wonders also helps not spamming them. This is getting long, but I could ramble on about how 6 and 7 are better than 5. (it's been awhile since I've played 4).
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
27d ago
Thanks bae.
Broke Take: Civ IV is the best civ game
Woke Take: Civ V + Vox Populi is the best civ game
Bespoke Take: Civ VII is the best civ game.
Fight me...
Civ IV has bad graphics and a doomstack problem, terrain is pretty much pointless. It requires little in the way of tactical knowledge. If I wanted to play something with randomly deep systems and a bad UX I'd play dwarf fortress. Most of the problems Civ V has also applies doubly to Civ 4.
Civ V needs a mod to make it playable. Enough said. Base game has huge problems with wonder-spamming and cities being pointlessly stacked much like Civ IV's armies. Later Civ's actually made city location and building placement meaningful beyond just "build it here for the resources it hits". The culture traditions are basic as hell and pretty much do have optimal choices leading to a massive reduction in build diversity.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
27d ago
No, not exactly.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
30d ago
And the one mainstream figure who was willing to voice these concerns was Charlie Kirk, and he got murdered by a lefty.
Has the "death of the author" already kicked off merely a year+ later? Kirk was not killed for being an MRA he was killed for being a trad conservative influencer and particularly for being anti-lgbtq+. Any man that looks at this as "I can't become famous and speak out about men's dating woes or I'll be killed" is delusional. Your histrionics about this are actively a detriment to people taking men's problems as a class serious. There are a whole host of old MRA folks still around and kicking: Peterson, Farrell, Elam, Straughan, Pizzey, Hoff Sommers, etc. Nobody is killing MRAs for advocating for men.
YoungAchamian
We walk conditioned ground and name our folly civilization.
30d ago
My ongoing modest proposal is RETVRNing to 1993.
Should be return to to 1978 as in 1979 women reach gender parity in attending college. I'm not sure people get how long we've had an egalitarian society, but we are coming up on 50 years. So unless your theory can account for the 14 years prior to 1993 as being ok, you should probably adjust it.
As I said two handfuls, ~7-9 ish depending on your definition. I'm not so autistic as to formally poll them, but I have talked about dating, relationships, and I am friends with many of their husbands, I was in their weddings. I know how those husbands think, absolutely they have preferences around tattoos, hair color, and lifestyle fitness, but they married women with similar values. It's not control, its a shared agreement on values. It is also just intuitive. Would you want to date a partner who wants to control how you dress and how your body looks like, who has the final say in all of that, and even worse, it's against your beliefs to run, to divorce, so you are stuck with a controlling partner? Anyone saying yes has a fetish.
To be clear the dichotomy I am suggesting is:
vs
Faceh is expressing the latter but wants it like the former. He should give up his control issues and just converge to believing the later. It would be healthier.
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