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				Wellness Wednesday for September 18, 2024
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
> Requests for advice


What's a reasonable "ghosting" protocol when it comes to online dating, assuming that I do want to rescue the conversation if-and-only-if the counterparty dropped the convo accidentally due to Universal Zoomer ADHD?


Trying out OLD recently, finally found what seemed to be a great match locally last weekend, but she went radio silence about 24h before a nearly-scheduled date. Not blocked, still "matched" on the site, and she shows up as "online" occasionally.


Current plan — asking in part for a sanity check on this — is to wait just under a week, maybe till Friday morning to allow for scheduling, then ask something upbeat and understanding like “hey, did you survive this week?” as the last outbound contact before writing it off as an intentional ghost.






Friday Evening


Me: … Well, let me know if the [local rock] concert next week sounds interesting or if you'd rather just grab coffee — or even lunch at a Chinese buffet? 😋

(I like rock music a bit, but not enough to bother going to a concert alone, so let me know either way!)


Her: Coffee would be amazing too I love iced coffee and I’m sorry but I can’t eat in front of someone new for awhile I’m very self conscious about that😂

I like to try new places that aren’t popular there’s this [very interesting cafe about an hour's drive away] I wanna visit but I can’t this Saturday however I can Sunday! I work a 9-5 Monday-Friday so I have money while I’m getting my business off the ground


Me: hmm, a drive up to [other state] this Sunday? 🤔Could be fun! I'm always down for obscure and interesting places.

What's the address, and have you got a specific timeslot in mind?

I was looking at checking out a church this Sunday (11am service), but could push that ahead a week


Her: Ooo which church I would love to go if that’s okay?


Me: Sure, I was looking at [nearby church] — it's a bit nontraditional (rather, they say they follow a non-mainstream tradition, Theosophy)

of course, as I said, I haven't actually been there yet so don't judge me if they turn out to be 100% crazy 🙈


Saturday morning


Her: I’ll look into! It might be interesting


Me: OK, I guess I'll see you tomorrow at 11am at [nearby church] and then maybe visit the obscure [other state] restaurant after?

*or 10:45 more like, so we can say "hi" beforehand


Sunday Morning


Me: OK, I'm heading out now to check out the church.

I don't have [dating site] on my phone, so if you want to tag up today — [cell#]


Me: (few hours later) Are you still interested in going to [that obscure cafe you mentioned] today?

It's an hour's drive there and an hour's drive back; if we leave around now, that would give us enough time for about a half-hour to eat and chat before I need to be back in [our town] by 4pm.




				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for September 15, 2024
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I hate how Twitter stops playing the video as soon as I scroll away from it to read the replies




There is a public video-enabled Nitter instance at https://elon.cucked.me/Bigfoot_USA/status/1834305378621730851 ; it doesn't have infinite-scrolling replies, but it does allow you to keep the video playing in the background when you open subsequent pages of replies in a new tab.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for September 15, 2024
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
More on the technology point: cheap storage. It feels like every time I go into town the flash drives and SSDs in the tech aisle are twice as large and half as expensive as the last time I went.