Joyful
1yr ago
otherwise women with endocrine conditions wouldn't be barred
That's usually a euphemism for XY intersex individuals.
equestrian sports
Are not divided by sex of the human participant. There are medal winners of both sexes across equestrian sports. Some are divided by the sex of the horse (although horses have less sexual dimorphism than humans, it is some).
Joyful
1yr ago
The difference between male and female athleticism is not minor competitive advantage. Most top high school male times beat most female olympian across almost all sports. I'll find the website if someone is interested.
Joyful
1yr ago
I find the idea of women's sports chuckle-worthy, about the same tier of interest as the Little Leagues. Aww, you poor things, incapable of standing up in absolute terms, let's make a nice carveout for you so that you can say you tried.
Antagonistic, uncharitable and unkind.
Joyful
1yr ago
citation? this sounds interesting. I wonder if the person even had androgen insensitivity or if it was just the chimaera blend.
Joyful
1yr ago
I too used to feel bad for intersex athletes but at the end of the day the existence of extremely rare intersex individuals is not an argument to let men compete with women based on their desire to do so.
Joyful
1yr ago
I can't stress how little importance the exact way you ask someone out has.
As a girl, this. She knows you. Either she would like to see more of you or she wouldn't so the wording won't really matter. If you have her number feel free to just text her if you don't want to do it in person.
Joyful
1yr ago
Plenty of people need the opposite- to have someone they love to improve for.
Well but you improve for them so that you can be a better partner in some way -- more supportive emotionally, or provide them with stuff that would improve their life.
A chatbot has no legitimate need for either. The "love" relationship is already everything, and nothing, for the bot.
Joyful
1yr ago
A female history buff here. I agree that "female writers about history are just as likely as men to be drawn to history by the wonder of contemplating different worlds rather than by any sort of political ideology". I personally love that about history. When you get far enough back things just were a certain way and no one tries to get all moralistic about it.
From watching Youtube historians, I do sometimes feel like women feel pressured by modern politics to make asides ("of course this is only what the white women of a certain class were wearing") but women feel more social pressure from negative comments, in general, I think.
There might be an illusion that women want to analyze history from a Marxian/feminist lens but that is what academia has done to the humanities and scholars having to be careerist to survive, it doesn't seem to permeate voluntary history enjoyment at all.
Another thing which comes to my mind: aren't women the main consumers of historical dramas in both text and visual form? I do not think that most of them read those books and watch those shows because they want to get enraged by the lack of feminism in previous time periods. They read and watch them because they find themselves captivated by them.
Yes, this.
Joyful
1yr ago
I really wish Lindsay Ellis had quit twitter rather than youtube over that idiocy.
Joyful
1yr ago
As a person who doesn't care about this issue, no not really. I don't see it as life altering in any meaningful way. i'm not sure what would move the needle enough to make me concerned, a high complication rate? But no, very different from chemical castration and brain growth retardation.
Joyful
1yr ago
Browsing a few pages of twitter I'd say its 15% supportive 85% "they look so uncomfortable" "how could he do this to his family" etc.
Joyful
1yr ago
Can someone link the actual tiktok videos? Searching without an account doesn't give you videos but channels.
Joyful
1yr ago
If a girl's exposed, far more likely for a permanent 'ick' to form or the window to close of perception.
Not necessarily. For me, anyway, trust comes before lust so online dating is frustrating and I'm a 75% of lovers were friends first kind of person.
That said, I do consider most of my male friends unfuckable.
Joyful
1yr ago
MtFs commit crimes at the same rate as other men (and sex crimes at 5-6 times the rate).
I'd rather be in a sketchy womens bathroom with any randomly chosen male rather than one that deliberately wanted to be there.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yep. One of my friends was a standard fat gamer programming nerd until the pandemic. Funny, if a bit incel-y in personality (he made some occasional sexist comments that were annoying but not fatal to our friendship). During the pandemic he finally lost the weight and I was thinking "Hey, maybe we can finally get this guy a date. Funny, decent job, tall enough, starting to look like a viking" I wouldn't date him myself for a couple of reasons, but get some good pictures for an online dating profile and we can improve his quality of life a lot (he's prone to depressive episodes and loneliness).
I brought up the topic and he said "actually, I'm not thinking about dating at all right now because I've been seeing a gender therapist for a year." We've hung out five or six times since then (over two years), with each hang out getting more uncomfortable and creepy, and now I'm dodging his calls (I'm not misgendering btw, he's never formally asked me to change names or pronouns). Somehow "man wearing a dress" freaks me out less than "man wearing a dress and boobs." It's much more 'it rubs the lotion on its skin'. He did finally (briefly) date someone (an older woman) during this process, but broke up with her because she obviously saw him as a man.
So yes. We're not close enough for me to suck it up and lie and not distant enough for me to just be polite. Hence the avoiding.
Joyful
1yr ago
Gone Girl is amazing, both the book and the movie. It is strange that she hasn't written a novel in ten years.
Joyful
1yr ago
Greys Anatomy had a really interesting Christian doctor for years and it led to really interesting story lines regarding sex, marriage, crises of faith and ultimately abortion. Pity she was removed to free up her love interest for an unpopular character that the writers wanted to center.
Joyful
1yr ago
I question whether obscure Canadian sitcom counts as mainstream (although I enjoy it).
Joyful
1yr ago
Not a lot outside of reality tv which is about their weight but This is Us comes to mind (just to give an example because you didn't, not disagreeing).
Joyful
1yr ago
I'd rather it start with 10% dischargeable and then work up to 50% over the course of a decade or so. (with the amount discharged transferred as debt or as reductions caps on annual grants to the given institution the discharged debt came from). 100% dischargeable makes a masters in theater more appealing not less.
Joyful
1yr ago
My guess is that it is a way to notice there might be a problem. As a teenage girl it would never have occurred to me to tell anyone if my period became irregular. How horrifying to raise the topic! Most teenage girls have not yet seen a gynecologist (btw, who ask on their intake forms the date of your last period, for this very reason.) Their individual coaches should be aware of this but I can see how specifically asking would seem intrusive and weird.
Joyful
1yr ago
I disagree. I think by making this their hill to die on and then no one caring they have lost influence on future commercial endeavors the trans movement would disapprove of. Future producers will be a lot less easily frightened by activist underlings when they cannot point to this having tanked the biggest game of the year.
Joyful
1yr ago
t just has to be plausibly deniable so that the girl can tell herself (and her friends, and her family, and her boyfriend/husband...) that she really didn't mean to sleep with the guy, but it "just happened". It's a way to get past her anti-slut defense.
It's not an anti-slut defense. It's a reasonable out "if I change my mind once we are alone" defense. Even with people I know well and have had sex with before (exes) I don't like the pressure of inviting someone over for sex explicitly. Because sometimes you change your mind, and you feel pressured by your earlier offer/commitment. Much less with a stranger. (I've never found myself in this situation with a stranger).
It's the one that is most obvious but the implications are much broader. We have protections for women's spaces in our society for very real reasons and allowing males into those spaces because they want in has real harms. Prisons are another concrete example but people care more about athletes than criminals so this is a better wedge issue.
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