EmergencyExit

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Wellness Wednesday for September 18, 2024

EmergencyExit 2mo ago

Thanks for the context.

Yeah, she's practical and low drama to an astounding degree. She'd be a genuinely great mother. (Like GOAT level) And she is admittedly very easy to be around.

She's offered me a 6 month trip for me to move where she lives (literal paradise) fully paid by her. I make significantly more, but she wants to gift me a time to just be myself. It would fix the long distance issue. Were aligned on where we want to end up by 2025.

The deal is great. I get a long needed break, an American citizenship, a high IQ wife who wants kids.......maybe I should take it.

But I want to nip my anxiety in the bud before making the leap.

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Wellness Wednesday for September 18, 2024

EmergencyExit 2mo ago

Is it possible to be weighing engagement vs breaking up at the same time ?

I'm dating the sweetest girl. Good head on her shoulders, intimacy is good. Shes cute. She would make a good mother and partner. No wierd hangups. No red flags. If Im honest, I cant articulatw any real big problems.

Logistically, we're very long distance and will last another year, which is the biggest issue.

For some reason, I cant shake this feeling that this isnt it. There isnt someone specific I'd rather be with. I will occasionally find her the prettiest and other times I'll notice all the blemishes. Sometimes I appreciate her steady self confidence. Other times, I am frustrated by her lack of brutal drive to self improvement. Shes objectively achieved enough that her intelligence is not up for question, but other times Im dissastisfied with the lack of sharp off the cuff retorts that ive come to expect from my male friends.

The relationship feels like coasting. And some part of my brain wants jazz.

As i read this, I know I sound like a manic pixie dream boy. But, the brain wants what it wants.

Have any of you faced this ? Is this just standard anxiety as men move into the mext phase of there lives ? Or is there something real here ?