Botond173
22m ago
In its essence the Wall is simply a biological reality - boys generally mature slower than girls but women also generally age faster then men. It's no wonder that an age gap of 3-5 years has been widespread in marriages throughout history (on both sides of the Hajnal Line, as far as I know, but again, I'm no ethnographer). And in societies where early marriage and childbirth plus enforced monogamy are the norm, the Wall practically does not matter, as the average woman hitting the Wall is already a wife and the mother of multiple children, plus soon to become a grandmother, in fact. So she already bought into the social fabric.
I suggest there are three main aspects to the Wall in the current social reality. One: there are more and more women hitting the Wall when they are single or at least childless, which then causes lots of hurt and disillusionment. Two: the worsening trends of female alcoholism, drug use, prescription pill abuse, sedentary and unhealthy lifestyles in general are all accelerating ageing, which makes the whole phenomenon worse. Three: a small but visible and loud minority of women are capable of spending a great deal of resources on anti-aging measures with notable success, which in turn creates the widespread illusion that the problem is much less worse than it actually is.
Botond173
2hr ago
The Wall is about sexual value, not social value, as hitting it entails a strictly biological/bodily transformation.
Botond173
2hr ago
Your appearance obviously invoked motherly feelings as long as you were just a boy, that is all. It has nothing to do with The Wall.
Botond173
2hr ago
Anything is unlikely to be well-defined when any discussion of it is purged from society instantly even on the internet.
Botond173
6hr ago
People way more comfortable interacting with strangers' small children than in Australia since there are more small children around.
I think the more likely explanation is that the pedophile predator threat is part of the public consciousness in Australia but not in SE Asia. And I doubt the fertility rate is higher in SE Asia than in Australia.
Essentially everywhere has ample childseats.
Do you mean restaurants and third places in general?
Botond173
6hr ago
As someone who hasn't seen the movie I assume there are two things going on. One: the store owner, unlike his female therapist, is not college-educated, which is a significant social barrier to a potential relationship between them. The therapist would probably suffer social ostracism if she paired up with him, which obviously could be offset were he an attractive stud, which he isn't. Which leads to - Two: it'd be possible for a store owner entrepreneur and a therapist to have a successful marriage, as the difference in terms of social status does not seem to be that big, but again, mutual attraction needs to be there for that first.
Botond173
1d ago
Marriage proposals are all submitted and answered in writing by law. Unless you can produce such a document, the authorities will assume that you're unmarried by choice. Just an idea.
Botond173
1d ago
Can you please explain in what sense is Southeast Asian culture more child-friendly than Australian culture?
Botond173
1d ago
I always assumed it takes place in NYC. Then this thread reminded me for the first time that there's a desert in the story as well.
Botond173
1d ago
If you don't want them, just be honest about why
I think the first and equally important step is admitting that you don't actually want them.
Botond173
2d ago
That’s also my suspicion. If we’re talking about the college-educated demographic, if one does not have a long-term partner at graduation, the chances of future marriage and parenthood are probably dropping drastically. I’m guessing there is research bearing this out.
Botond173
2d ago
The focus of this report is a lot narrower than the previous one which means there are fewer fun takeaways. Two facts stand out. There's been a lot of speculation about coupling not working, people delaying childrearing so they are unable to get that third child, et cetera, but the report doesn't bear any of these concerns out. Men and women are still moving in together, but the major driver of the decline is that there's a growing cohort in which the couple never decides to have kids. A lot of DINK-couple (Double Income, No Kids) are no longer as eager to become DICKs (Double Income, Couple o' Kids) as they used to be.
https://www.themotte.org/post/3555/culture-war-roundup-for-the-week/410740?context=8#context
Botond173
2d ago
I thought there was broad social consensus in the US that such women are usually punished rather lightly.
Botond173
2d ago
It's not like attractive single female teachers need to resort to such measures in order to get pregnant though.
Botond173
2d ago
I ask you to reconsider this. Condoms used to be unreliable and uncomfortable. Natural family planning necessitates a level of human agency that most normies lack, plus it entails the woman having sex on days when her desire level is at the lowest, which is hardly practical. Coitus interruptus is also unreliable.
Botond173
2d ago
It used to be that members of congress lived in Washington full time, now they are expected to fly home every weekend. But not all members of congress live in cities like NYC or LA with their multiple airports.
"House leaders subsequently have built more hoe time into the congressional calendar."
That was pretty funny.
"But in late 1994, when Republicans took control of the House for the first time in 40 years, incoming Speaker Newt Gingrich encouraged his party's members to leave their families in their districts, to emphasize their independence from Washington and their roots among constituents."
I sort of wonder if this was a simple case of pure cynicism or an inability to picture the long-term adverse consequences of this decision, which should not characterize a self-proclaimed conservative. Chesterton's fence and all that.
Botond173
2d ago
I'm not sure where that 20x statistic comes from, I certainly didn't quote it.
I'm assuming it's this part:
In Ireland, they are 0.7% of the population yet 12-15% of prison inmates, an astonishing level of overrepresentation that even many much-maligned other minority groups on both sides of the Atlantic have failed to match.
Bisons are majestic thought.
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