urquan
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urquan
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1d ago
I genuinely got the ick reading the quoted post. That’s creepy. I get that people are attracted to celebrities, but we’re on the same spectrum of parasocial insanity as stalkers here.
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4d ago
Daft Punk, deep cut Thomas Bangalter and Le Knight Club, Justice, Alan Braxe, Patrick Alavi, Modjo, Kavinsky, Fred Falke, Lifelike, Bob Sinclar, Stardust, Digitalism, Boys Noize, anything from Crydamoure, Georgio Moroder, Der Dritte Raum, Yuksek, Chris Malinchak, Chromeo, Parcels, Miami Horror, HOME, Donna Summer, Earth, Wind & Fire, Phoenix, Gloria Estefan, Empire of the Sun, Two Door Cinema Club, blink-182, The Beefs, Lenny Kravitz, Boney M., Bee Gees, Vitalic, Freemasons, Proux, Defender, Wolfgang Gartner.
I was in the top 0.1% of Duck Sauce listeners one year, and in the top 1% of Cerrone listeners the next year. This year I'm in the top 1% of ItaloBros and Purple Disco Machine listeners.
Lately I've been listening to Iden Kai's Galactica Airlines.
If it's not made on a computer and nothing is synthesized, I don't want to hear it.
But I've also never been to a club, not really my scene.
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4d ago
Unironically the direct appeal of the greater Idaho movement to the people of Portland.
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6d ago
I've had good experiences with Omada APs, they can be a little finnicky but most prosumer-level AP solutions can be. I have multiple SSIDs with various VLAN tags applied. My suggestion, especially since you're pulling cable, would be to use wired ethernet as the backhaul medium to connect the APs. Don't use wireless mesh backhaul, if Omada even supports that. I've heard you can use 6Ghz as the backhaul if your APs support it, but that just gives me the ick, I'm a wired-first person.
TP-Link has their Omada management platform as a software you can run on-prem, someone packaged it as a docker container that works very well. You can disable the cloud stuff and just manage it through the local network or over a VPN of your choosing.
What router OS are you planning on using for the Linux box?
I agree with gattsuru's suggestion to get a bigger switch, and bring it in the house, if possible. 16 port (let alone 24 port) managed gear can get expensive fast, but if you plan to only have one switch, it might be worth it to search ebay for older 'smart' switches with manual vlan-tagging capability. But you just bought a house, so... maybe go for gold? My fiber hookup (for 1Gig, far better than what was here before but not anything fancy) gives me an ONT that converts to copper. You may have an actual box that you'll have to set to pass-through mode. (Don't double NAT.) If you have something similar, you can run a cable from the ONT to literally anywhere in the house -- home office, network closet, anywhere -- and not have to worry about your equipment being out in the cold. You wouldn't do that to poor network equipment, would you? I guess maybe your coax terminates in the garage? In that case it might have to stay there. Sarah McLachlan judges you.
You could use one of the technically-standard home networking wall panels, but they are NOT deep, and I wouldn't put much equipment in it if any at all.
It's possible your coax is stapled in places, and so it may not be possible to pull on it. Home telecommunications wiring has always been a bit slapdash; you should see the rats nest in my parents' attic. If some of the coax can't be pulled, you can try and use MoCA to get ethernet through it... though I've had only bad experiences with MoCA, so your mileage may vary. Make sure you use solid-copper cat6 and terminate to jacks. Riser cable will work, don't pay for plenum-rated cable.
Your vlan separation is good, that's the recommended kind of segmentation for home networks nowadays. Make sure that they're not just on separate VLANs but separate SSIDs, and are blocked at the firewall level, so they can't just layer-3 route between each other. I'll note that a lot of home IoT gear can be... annoyed at the prospect of being separated from your personal devices, depending on how their system is designed. mDNS is the bane of my existence. Apple gear is particularly poorly behaving in terms of dealing with complex home networks. A lot of Apple/HomeKit/AirPlay stuff assumes a mostly flat LAN and can get grumpy across VLANs unless you set up mDNS/Bonjour reflection carefully... and I couldn't tell you how to do that, I'm still figuring it out myself. IoT devices that go straight to the cloud can probably do fine just with internet access.
One thing you could do with your BEEFY linux box is run your own DNS, with ad-block capabilities. You could use Pi-hole or AdGuard Home for that. I love it. Makes the internet feel actually usable. I'd recommend using virtualization for it, so you have flexibility. People love Proxmox, I have a soft spot for XCP-NG, not because I have any love for Xen but because their management and backup platforms are more flexible.
Congrats on the new house! I hope your home internet turns out great. Funiculus coaxialis delendus est.
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6d ago
At some point GPUs aren't even GPUs any more, they're something else.
Wild to think that the lineage of the graphics accelerators with weird aliens on the box is now utterly revolutionizing the world.
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7d ago
Hm. That's not my experience, at all. They're not the most common, but they're out there. This may just be a generational or regional thing, I'm not sure. But it also sounds like what you're talking about is highly g-loaded, more than simply pop culture geekery. Of course, people interested in smart people things are going to be pretty rare, just because of the bell curve.
Somebody Told Me
I had to look this one up -- not very familiar to me. I have to admit, the first thing that came to mind was Smash Mouth.
When You Were Young
Not familiar to me at all.
But me not knowing rock bands doesn't really mean much, I almost exclusively listen to disco, disco house, and Europop. Disco Demolition Night was an offense against God.
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7d ago
The only context in which I encountered it was an old Soothouse video in which they did one of the "Google translate 1,000 times in various languages" games with the lyrics, producing:
Get out of my fucking cage
And I did all right
He must go
I want all the reasons
She began to kiss.
How it ended?
This kiss, kisses
I'll sleep
She called a taxi
Despite the fact that there is smoke
And she performs oral sex
Now they sleep
My stomach is very painful
All in my head
But she touched her breast
NOW HE GATHERED HIS HARVEST.
Let me go
I can not kill me.
Avoid
Hey, turn to the sea
Swinging lullaby
STRENGTHEN YOUR POWER
But that's the price I paid.
The fate is calling me
Open the sight,
Because I'm Mr. Brightside.
But I'd never actually heard the music, and still haven't.
Surprisingly, most of the context came through, and the "She's taking a drag" line becoming "And she performs oral sex," is almost a metaphor implicit in the song. I don't know how Google Translate somehow amplified the sexual content.
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7d ago
The secession @ToaKraka is talking about was directly about the ethnic makeup. The Sudanese government, controlled from the north, was orienting itself explicitly towards being an Arab-dominated Muslim state, and the southern Sudanese, who are largely black, were not happy with this. The south seceeded with the implicit support of the US; Salva Kiir, the country's first president, took a liking to George W., and wears a stetson everywhere because W. gave him one as a gift.
After the secession the militant government descended immediately into civil war and ethnic cleansing; South Sudan is not a great place to live.
Sudan-Sudan, the northern country, is 70% Sudanese Arab and is dominated by Arab culture. South Sudan is overwhelmingly black, but split between different ethnic groups, the largest of which is the Dinka.
"Sudanese" as an ethnic marker refers generally to Sudanese Arabs, who identify as Arab and are descendents of Arab traders and local African tribes.
It drives the differences in how many women get into STEM, it drives the "I'm sorry, but I'm just flat-out exhausted by the constant string of even decent suitors thinking I'm their last romantic shot" that women in STEM/atheism/whatever have been writing about for 25 years, and generally it's pretty hard to find natal women who are into any given nerdy thing.
Hm, I guess this hasn’t been my experience. It’s true that you’ll find it hard to find a woman into, say, retro gaming, PC hardware, AI inference as a technology (rather than as a tool, which is controversial but not as much as the internet wants you to believe) or whatever particular nerdy thing you’re into, but from my zoomer perspective women who are geeky in general alongside a feminine disposition to geeky things aren’t rare. They’re often not the most beautiful women in the world, but male geeks are rarely the most handsome, and they’re good matches for each other.
My first girlfriend in school was very into Doctor Who (very “girl, but geeky” of her), I dated a girl in college who loved anime and went to conventions in cosplay (dressing up and being cute — very “girl, but geeky”), and my current girlfriend is a woman who works in biotech, is obsessed with molecular genetics and is learning Python for bioinformatics work (biology is peak “girl, but in stem”) who I met actually at an atheist club, if you can believe that. She also, of course, is fascinated by true crime (and reverences Othram’s genetic genealogy program), likes cute things, loves to call animals silly names, and reads dark academia novels.
I think geeky guys often make the mistake of looking for women who are essentially men — and yeah, there aren’t many of them. Men generally enjoy machines, systems, engineering, to a degree and in a way that women don’t, and likewise women generally enjoy creatures, cute things, fashion, social issues, learning about the dark side of the world, to a degree and in a way that men don’t. You’re unlikely to meet a woman whose personality and interests line up with men’s, or with yours.
So? You look for a woman who shares your disposition towards the world, your attitude towards the things you like even if applied to different interests, and that’s what geeky girls are like and have always been like. They’re not men with boobs, they’re women with geeky traits.
And a lot of things that are traditionally male-geek have surprising crossover: TikTok has found a way to market mechanical keyboards to white collar women, which is why my girlfriend now has two keyboards with “thocky” or “creamy” (gag) linear switches. And my girlfriend and I share an interest in history and church architecture, and relentless curiosity.
I had a coworker when I worked in PC repair who had an adorable girlfriend who played games on a PC he built for her. The dude was built like a blueberry, but he and his girl seemed to really love each other. What did she do? She was an English student aiming to become a teacher. Peak girl energy.
You don’t have to date in STEM to meet a woman that’s cute, affectionate, culturally compatible, and a good match. I like women whose hobbies and personalities are notably feminine; I like women, I want to be associated with a woman who is a woman and does woman things, but also shares my intellectualized, obsessive, fascinated posture towards the world. Such women are not so rare.
If SF makes finding such women particularly hard, my advice would be to build a nest egg and get the hell out of there. The kind of money we’re talking about counts as exquisite to most women of this country.
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8d ago
I don’t see how the company fails because of one unusual incident like this. There aren’t that many options in lots of markets for LEGO buy/sell/trade, and few people are trading in hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of sets.
That said, I always got the sense that BAM was on the low-end of third-party LEGO retailers and most of their smaller competitors are more liked in their particular markets.
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8d ago
an English speaking, very attractive, attentive Eastern European girlfriend of his type
What's missing is the intellectual companionship, which is the selling point of the Aella sort to their particular clientele. The Eastern European woman might be attentive and attractive, and she might speak English, but she also is from a very different background and worldview, and possibly has a very different personality and level of intelligence.
Which is definitely strange to me -- surely there are enough decently-smart, decently-attractive, actually kind of geeky ladies for men with the kinds of money we're talking about to find one who might fall in love with him non-transactionally, but maybe the Bay really is a harsh place for straight love.
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14d ago
I looked up the second panel shown in your link. Is this supposed to be some kind of a cuckold thing? She's got an arm around her but Man Child is sitting on the couch watching.
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14d ago
Christians historically would have said this is a direct parallel to Eve choosing to eat the forbidden fruit. The Genesis narrative describes her being lied to by the serpent, but notably it also describes her making her own appraisal of the situation and making a decision: "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it."
The original sin is a free choice, and likewise the decision that leads to salvation has to be a free choice.
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15d ago
Mandalorian and Grogu is currently doing worse than Solo, and is being beaten by a horror film. I agree with you. The sequels divided people, which was enough to cause people to lose interest in it, but now most of the voices who were defending them are quiet. Nobody cares enough to press the issue any more.
I recently saw an article in one of the geek publications where the author was like, “yeah, the sequels were inconsistent and undermined each other, but the people who say this was because of feminism are still misogynists.” I’ve never met someone who defends the movies. They suck. But cancelling them wouldn’t do much. The energy’s already gone.
There are two definitions of “manchild.” One is a man who doesn’t uphold adult responsibilities, sarker’s definition. The other is a man whose hobbies are considered childish or underdeveloped. I guess this is more the counterpart of Quirk Chungus or 5434a’s Disney adult.
The two are frequently conflated, sometimes by women as a justification for their ick at male hobbies like gaming or science fiction or LEGO, and sometimes by men as a dominance play against other men they consider beneath them because they indulge in said icky hobbies. Sometimes women will just use “manchild” to refer to a man who is emotionally underdeveloped, in whatever way she thinks he is, like in the Sabrina Carpenter song.
All words with emotional valence eventually just become synonyms of “good” or “bad.” Manchild is one of them. We have plenty of female equivalents — “basic bitch” is one women like for the hobby sense, “foid” is closer to the Sabrina Carpenter usage as deployed by men. For the other equivalents used by men, read the motte.
I have mixed feelings about AI; I have concerns about it being used to automate military decisions that should require human moral judgment (the traditional Terminator-style concern over computer command and control), and also the potential for deepfaking and manufacturing false content to mislead or manipulate. The latter has already been used in new and more sophisticated scams, and I worry about what a nation-state-level actor could do with that kind of power. Economic disruption is there as a genuine possibility, and that's difficult, but I'd prefer if people expressed that possibility directly as a livelihood threat rather than trying to launder the (genuinely sympathetic) concern into environmentalism or moral grandstanding about human creativity or interpretations of IP law in which AI training is assumed-illegal.
I've rarely actually heard someone say, "I don't like AI because doing my job without it gives me satisfaction and a good-paying job, and the introduction of AI into the workplace makes me feel like I'm losing the livelihood I prefer." Instead, I typically hear things like "AI was developed by stealing the intellectual property of hardworking people in order to enrich the billionaires and ELON MUSK and DONALD TRUMP," part of the large egregore of "all my enemies are evil rich fascists."
People would rather be angry than admit vulnerability. Our discussions over issues of social importance would be strikingly improved if people were willing to admit when their principles are self-serving -- which there's nothing wrong with, everyone deserves to advocate for themselves -- instead of trying to convert everything into an argument in which justice, law, the hand of God, and the long arc of history all militate against whoever you think is opposing your interests.
I don't agree with the environmental or land-use concerns for the most part, and it strikes me as degrowth corporate-hate and NIMBYism rather than principled objections. Energy use is not automatically immoral. I'm disappointed in the ways in which AI's demand for silicon is draining the consumer market of computer components and I worry about the impact on individual people's ability to control the means of technological production, but at least so far, this is offset to me by the increase in the ability to interface with computers using natural language.
The kind of generalized AI hate I see out there, online, occasionally in person, is hard for me to wrap my head around. I'm in the 10% of Americans who are more excited than concerned about AI. Generative AI has been great for me, in ways similar to what it's been for you. I enjoy using it. I get value out of it. I think AI slop memes are funny sometimes. I don't like when it's used to write personal messages or fill out marketing boilerplate copy, but I don't hate AI text as a general principle, especially if it's used to bolster and not replace human effort and creativity. And I dislike the invective and contempt that valid uses of AI generate in critics far, far more than I dislike the silliness or laziness of uses of AI that are in poor taste. That's the self-interested vulnerability of my own: I don't want a tool that has expanded my capability to become socially radioactive.
I don't know enough about AI to comment with any level of expertise on the research frontier. But I do have a skeptical prior towards the idea that this generation of AI will produce genuinely generalized AI that can meaningfully, affordably, and trustworthily replace human oversight. But we've gone farther with agentic AI use than I would have expected, so I might be wrong about that.
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17d ago
“Tits out for harambe” has a kind of ring to it.
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17d ago
I never really encountered this. It certainly wasn’t a sudden transition. My experiences didn’t change drastically when I hit puberty; women in authority liked me before, and liked me after. The girls didn’t pay me much attention before, but paid me a bit more attention after. My mom’s attitude didn’t get worse in any way. If anything, I felt my connections with women improved after puberty, but I also had a tough childhood.
I didn’t feel the kind of pressure you’re hitting at until I was around 24 or 25. Even then it was pretty light pressure. It’s fair that people have higher expectations for productivity, emotional control, and accomplishment for grown adults than for children.
So, I don’t know. I believe you and the tweeter are talking about a real phenomenon, and I’m aware of deeply misandrist women, even mothers, who treat their boys as dangerous rather than beloved once they reach puberty.
It’s true that there have been various times in my life where my negative emotion was seen concernedly in a way it might not have if a woman experienced the same thing, but this has always been defused by actually talking about it and demonstrating reflectiveness and control. I feel like every relationship I’ve had with women has rewarded my ability to communicate emotionally, and I do wonder where the gap is between my experiences and other male experiences sometimes.
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18d ago
I recommend it, especially if you're interested in highly story-based games and enjoyed The Witcher 3. It's not the "be literally anything you want to be!" game that it was pitched as, but it's very, very good for fans of story-based games. The gameplay is also excellent, and I say this as someone who usually doesn't enjoy first-person shooters. You feel like your cyberware actually enhances your character, makes you more powerful. At a certain point in progression you feel invincible.
I didn't play until a few years after it came out, so most of the major bugs were ironed out. There are still lots of bugs, but they're manageable.
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20d ago
Which is funny, because the CS/AI kit's big ML feature is just computer vision, a lot of it stuff that's been around for a decade in OpenCV. But that's why they've got the massive marketing team and I don't.
Everything is AI now. Searching a database? AI. Computer vision? Obviously AI. If-then statement? That sounds like a computer following a chain of logic, it’s AI. Everything and nothing is AI.
I guess when investment pushes into a particular area, the financial incentives push for dressing anything up as the area in question. Generative AI is genuinely a huge deal, but it’s expensive to actually invest in it, and substandard substitutes are eager to parade as the real deal.
I never got into the mindstorms stuff, and robotics isn’t really my thing. But I had followed it for a long time, and it’s genuinely strange to me that Lego moved to the “Spike Prime” thing and then cancelled it, too.
I’ve also read that there’s a big push for “AI literacy” in schools, and Lego may be trying to appeal to this curriculum demand with the new kit. I guess it just goes to show that everything has to have AI in it nowadays.
They’re making money hand over fist in botanical sets and pricey display models, maybe they think the robotics game doesn’t have high enough growth potential for their current business model.
But I’m still stewing over the death of Bionicle, and I think about Lego Universe every now again, so the LEGO Group’s ability to cancel iconic things without remorse doesn’t surprise me.
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21d ago
There’s also the “tortured soul” energy of your examples — a werewolf, a vampire, and the beast are all cursed with an affliction that tortures them and separates them from the human. The women in the stories serve as a stabilizing force — in BatB, literally the lifting of the curse itself — that humanizes him.
They’re dangerous, but deep down, beyond the curse, deeply good. A man who gets passionate and heated, but can be calmed by a touch of his woman, is a pretty real scenario couples experience all the time. Everyone knows that guy who will start yelling about something, and his wife squeezes his hand, and he chills out.
For professional or semi-professional writing, that appears sloppy and unprofessional.
For personal writing, it makes no difference. Normies can't tell the difference between ASCII 0x2D (-) and Unicode U+2014 (—). Even when writing dashes with "--", I've been accused of being AI. The assumption among sophisticated audiences is that you AI-generated the text and then edited the characters you used to disguise it. And most people aren't so sophisticated that they're looking at detailed character codes, they see any writing with dash-separated clauses and they presume it's AI.
I was always familiar with this as a real thing, though nobody I knew used it. Generally dropdowns that offered honorifics would include master as an option, even in the states.
Though it is more associated with fictional British butlers in the minds of Americans.
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