Skulldrinker
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Skulldrinker
1d ago
I've never understood how a second man helps in this situation; that's just another oppressor who might be a serial killer or have a podcast.
Skulldrinker
1d ago
Except that straight women love gay men. I firsthand observed a woman flip from "ewwww, men" to a loving gaze the moment a conventional-looking guy mentioned being gay.
I used to know a guy who listed his sexuality on Hinge as "queer" to increase his matches, even though he was already a black-ish communist.
Skulldrinker
3d ago
There's getting rejected a lot, and then there's getting rejected with language that the mere act of speaking to a woman in public is some kind of violation. "And then he tried flirting with me, ugh. At a bar, of all places. Who does that?"
I've had women approach ME in bars only for nearby women to reflexively try to "save" her, because they can't wrap their head around a woman wanting to talk to a man and I must be up to no good. And yes, I am bitter about this.
Skulldrinker
3d ago
Cutting down on all the ambient "Men, Amirite?" seems achievable. Right now, only being an absolute panty-melter can get a woman to briefly forget she's supposed to hate her oppressors or whatever.
Every time I've had a woman approach me in the past 5 years, she's either doing something bafflingly shitty (asking for my number while the guy she's on a date with is standing right there), turns out to not be single (her Instagram is full of posts about how in love she is with her "wife," a bald man who wears a dress), or sends a bunch of overly-affectionate and increasingly sexually-explicit text messages, then mentions being on her period for some reason, then ghosts the day of the date. Or within two minutes of conversation, she manages to mention how much she hates white people (we're both white), how men are all such trash Amirite, how such-and-such film is misogynistic, and how great some book is because it's so queer. Go fucking talk to a brown gay woman then if you hate everything about me so fucking much. Also, since when is it okay to harass a stranger in a public setting? If I flirt back, will you suddenly remember the rules and accuse me of something?
So by now just having a woman talk to me unprompted puts me in a bad mood on the spot.
Skulldrinker
6d ago
Since when is saying something controversial rewarded with female approval?
Skulldrinker
6d ago
Yeah, that's a big element for me as well, plus the weird double standard; western rurals/conservatives having slightly-old-fashioned views about women and gays that they can't really enforce = disgusting bigots, but downright medieval attitudes enshrined in law and actual gay-bashing from slightly browner people is a-okay.
Skulldrinker
9d ago
It's funny you mention Tropic Thunder, this came up at work the other day.
two zoomers got all huffy because
Isn't that the film where Robert Downy JR does Blackface? Ewwwww.
Yes, it's a movie making fun of movies, the joke is that it's in bad taste.
You obviously don't know the history of oppression suffered by people of color and the emotional damage of-
No, I do know the history, I just don't think anyone was genuinely emotionally scarred by that film. People have just been told they're supposed to get mad when they see a pale face with something dark smeared on it.
That's what slipped out before I shut myself up, because I have to work with these people for a while. Downright disheartening.
Skulldrinker
11d ago
True on the witches stuff, Shrek 2 is basically Witches Abroad.
Skulldrinker
11d ago
Apparently there's a complaint among actual lesbians that their dating market is flooded with self-described queer women, whom they quickly find aren't actually particularly attracted to women or interested in sex with them, they just want to cuddle, do girly stuff, and talk about how much they hate men.
Skulldrinker
12d ago
He's an absolute mindblower if you're a teenager, though.
Skulldrinker
12d ago
Any of the following are good places to start:
Pyramids
Guards!Guards!
Wyrd Sisters
Reaper Man is good but it's best to read Mort first
Skulldrinker
23d ago
It also happened shortly after Anita and Feminist Frequency had gotten the pot nice and stirred up.
Skulldrinker
23d ago
Yeah, that's kinda GG all over. The horrible toxic gamergate harassers were all anonymous randos, while all the anti-team's lying propaganda and victim playacting came from, well, Named Elites with fancy health bars.
Ultimately, gamers as a community were test subjects for outrage-click journalism. In the lead up to GG, outlets and individual actors were discovering that if you shit on nerds, half of them will get mad at you, and the other half will knuckle under and get mad at the first half to prove they're "one of the good ones." Before white guilt was found to be WAY more volatile and easy to extract, they were going after nerdy male guilt.
Skulldrinker
25d ago
It was billed as "Inclusive" speed dating. They had other events that were "queer-only," and I think I saw one that was explicitly masks-mandatory. One event was called "baby queer speed friending." There's really no particular reason that queerness has any connection to being a maskie, but of course the two are highly correlated.
It's apparently normal enough that I was the only person at the event to roll their eyes and make a snarky comment about it. I only went because it was the most local and least scammy-looking speed dating org in the area. In one night I had three conversations that went hobbies->books->fantasy->"JKR is such a disgusting bigot."
Skulldrinker
27d ago
West side Chicago.
Skulldrinker
27d ago
The effects of slightly more COVID deaths would have been way less visible in people's lives than the effects of long-term lockdowns turned out to be, and scared people could have just stayed home; work from home could have continued for email people without lockdowns.
They could have just ended the lockdowns after two weeks like they said they would. Or after doctors declared COVID was less dangerous than racism. Or after the vaccines became available. Instead they waited til May 2023, and by that point maskies had become subculture; I still see maskies every day. I tried going to fucking speed dating last year, and they handed out masks and required proof of vaccination.
In the mirror universe, is there a subculture of people in perpetual mourning for those who died from COVID? They'd be indistinguishable from goths.
Skulldrinker
29d ago
The other problem is that the Trump administration by trying to take control of the narrative and slandering the victims before their bodies were cold effectively endorsed the killings.
I'll admit, that got under my skin more than anything else. It took the typical trump lying from tiresome bullshitting buffoonery to, well, hackneyed villainy.
Skulldrinker
1mo ago
I agree; gold's value is societally determined. In cases of societal collapse, your gold will just be taken off your corpse by a spike-covered guy driving a car that's also covered in spikes.
Someone buying physical gold should really be buying bullets, vitamins, and canned protein.
Skulldrinker
1mo ago
Is right now (after a historic crash) a good time to buy in on silver and gold? The underlying logic still seems sound (needed for electronics, inflation/weakening USD, increased international drama)
Skulldrinker
1mo ago
I found there to be an annoying number of unasked questions and unargued arguments. Given that the hivemind can't even pick fruit (never mind that the tree WANTS you to eat the apples and crap out the seeds, this still counts as harm), the virus winds up being a pesticide that kills off an entire species, but also causes the target to tidy up after itself while it dies off.
Skulldrinker
1mo ago
I've never heard a leftist snarl about space IRL, and trust me, it a leftist snarls about something, I hear it.
Skulldrinker
1mo ago
But punk also used to not be associated with queer pronoun covid-awareness. And politics wasn't always such a fucking interpersonal torpedo, because it didn't take up 90% of peoples' idle dialogue.
Skulldrinker
1mo ago
It's an unfortunance that also applies to Magic, the Gathering. Expensive, and you'll probably be the coolest person in the room, which is not good.
That doesn't account for the queerfishing. Or the hockey porn. Every woman I have a conversation with apparently judges all media based on how queer it is. I really do think this is becoming a misdirected lust thing; slightly similar to "non-threatening boys" where sex and attraction is scary, so the only men they're comfortable lusting over are guys that will never do something so un-gallant as reciprocate, to the degree they forget that reciprocation is the point of sexuality.
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