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A lot of "therapy" that gets pushed around seems to get rid of any notion of personal responsibility or self-improvement and instead focuses on making the person a victim of the circumstances around them and that it is solely outside factors to blame. I think this is prevalent because for a lot of people, it is easier to be told that their bad situations/issue is a result of outside forces, and nobody likes to be told that it could possibly be their own fault because that would mean they have a problem that they have to fix. It probably is the case for some people, but I doubt it's as prevalent as it's made out to be.
I believe most of the time people just need to be told to consider the opposite of what they're thinking or believe solely to be exposed to more viewpoints which can then help them make a more informed decision. People who are too self-critical and self-blaming need to be told that perhaps there are some things out of their control, while people who think everyone and the world is against them need to be told that they should probably be more self-critical. Unfortunately, nobody wants to be told that their way of thinking is wrong, and since a lot of therapy you can pick and choose your therapist, many people will pick the therapist that reinforces their worldview.
Imagine if your dad was older than his sister, the amount of reputation damage it would have done. I wonder how many families have been damaged due to these repressed memory therapies. People's memories are bad and unreliable. According to one study, 50% of people are susceptible to believing false memories, and 30% of people could even vividly recall that false event happening and provide additional details. How many of these repressed memories coming out of therapy is just the therapist planting a false memory into a person instead of a person being an actual victim of childhood abuse?
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