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Wellness Wednesday for April 10, 2024

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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My strategy is being so likeable that my friends insist on dragging me out to places even when my natural inclination is to nap at home and play video games when I'm not working or studying.

Sadly most of said friends have scattered to the four corners of the globe, but I'm moving too and don't really have issues making friends, though that gets difficult when you don't have an environment like college where you're forced to spend hours together and suffer through the same shit until you end up trauma-bonding. Most of the doctors at my workplace are (or now were) more senior to me, and the people at my level too busy with their own exams to have much in the way of a social life.

But I look forward to starting afresh, I don't have issues with making friends, and my sadness was mostly from what felt like Sisyphean struggles with no clear end in sight rather than because I miss human company too much. Said boulder has now reached a nice comfortable plateau, so I hope I can get out and see the scenery and drink my sorrows away.

And of course I'm here on The Motte because there are people I enjoy talking with, it's not a parasocial relationship because I genuinely end up, if not bosom friends, close enough that there plenty of people here I can hit up when either they or I are around.