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I very much meant it as a system for a country. In my personal life, I try to maintain some minimum standard of decency regardless of the gender, race and personality of the person I interact with, but do not delude myself into thinking I treat everyone the same. Like, people would totally get a bonus to their dice roll to interact with me if I find them attractive or share their interests.
If I had to decide on prison sentences for defendants, I would have to work hard on counteracting such biases, because everyone should get a fair trial. By contrast, everyone is not entitled to a fair portion of my attention.
I am fine with any particular person (including myself) being into men or women or being dom or sub and whatever, and also fine with their being statistical correlations between all of these things within broader society.
I do not want society to try to put their fingers on the scale to enforce equality of outcomes. Prescribing that 50% of heterosexual divorces should end up with the father being the primary guardian of the kids sounds abhorrent to me. If 80% of divorcee kids stay with their mothers because women are willing to commit to making greater concessions to raising their kids on average that would be an outcome I am fine with. But if the same 80% are reached because the law systematically favors women instead that would seem wrong to me.
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