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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 25, 2024

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I agree that "it takes a village" and parents and kids have suffered from not having it in the nuclear family system we have fallen into in the states. I'm not promoting that as an end goal, just as I am not promoting the idea that we should have people smoke and overeat to die sooner and reduce the surplus population.

I am pointing out that it is silly to think it would save the taxpayer any healthcare money to incentivise healthier living in the current environment due to the cost of elder care being crazy high. If your Dad smokes you might get an inheritance, if he doesn't you and the taxpayer are on the hook for 10 years of declining mobility in a retirement home at 8k a month and 5 years of dementia in a 20k a month memory care unit.

if he doesn't you and the taxpayer are on the hook for 10 years of declining mobility in a retirement home at 8k a month and 5 years of dementia in a 20k a month memory care unit.

Or just bring him home. People pay for these things because they have too much money to know what to do with it.

And you know, maybe the next time a 'deadly' pandemic that's mostly fatal to the very elderly comes around, maybe just don't freak out as much?

I didn't do any freaking out. I think people who are still worried about it are literally insane.

People don't put mom in a home because they have too much money, they put mom in a home because living with a full grown adult that needs to be carried to the bathroom and fed 3 meals a day and taken care of, driven to all health appointments, administered drugs, entertained and bathed and who is getting worse over time is 2 full time jobs.

If you're working or raising kids you literally can't do it.