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Wellness Wednesday for March 6, 2024

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Examples of big group environments are popular bars and house parties

What're you trying to get out of these situations?

I don't like any of those situations for their own sake, and reckon that's alright. Maybe you're trying to make a friend, find a date, or network? And then once you have friends, a romantic partner, and a good job, you'll mostly stop going to those events? Most of the mid 30s people I know have friends, a family, and a job, and mostly hang out with the social group they already have. The exceptions come across as slightly concerning -- mid 30s women living alone in New York and constantly posting on social media about the various bars and parties they're at.