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Culture War Roundup for the week of September 26, 2022

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The most key thing that I think it's necessary to note is that the gender "war" is mostly only fought in one direction - it's primarily feminist-leaning women and their male sympathisers accusing men of all manner of wrongdoing towards women, and most people out there who aren't all that invested in the gender war seem quite willing to go along with and accept that same narrative.

I think there is starting to be a new front opened up, where men are now accusing women of having the upper hand - the whole "Women Are Wonderful" narrative, that men lose everything in a divorce, that men can and do/did have their lives ruined by accusations of sexual harassment where the female accuser never had to prove anything and got away with it (see Mattress Girl ) that women gatekeep sexual access and create incels, that women over-value their own sexual market value and chase a small number of high-value men who only use them, and so forth.

And, like the women's accusations about male privilege, there is certainly something in the men's accusations of female privilege. But I think we should remember that we are in a war, and a lot of accusations made during wartime are propaganda, not fact. Men did have the upper hand in society in the past, women do have the upper hand in society at present. Either or both of these states can change, and are not permanent.

I was about to say: just cause feminism started the gender wars doesn't mean no one else can participate.

I would argue that, where progressivism wins, it often makes even its critics absorb parts of its ideology or tactics to fight back.

For example: conservatives attacking affirmative action for disadvantaging a minority (Asians).