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Well, lemme tell you as someone that had a decent number of casual partners, I don't buy any of these things as actually being true, which is why they might not sound very persuasive. Loose women are fun, STI rates aren't actually very high among educated white and Asian women, I have no idea if the world was better when people tried not to sleep around, and the dating market doesn't seem so bad for a decent positioned guy. The main thing I would remind them of is that it's just not really all that exciting in the end. Lots of fuss over some mostly mediocre hookups. It's not that they're earthshattering events that are going to destroy your life when you somehow get HIV, it's that you're going to spend a lot of time and energy and not get very much out of it.
Of course, I don't actually expect to people able to convince anyone of that either. Male craving for sexual variety is so normal, so utterly banal, that it just has to be dealt with on its own terms. Character and virtue lie not in lacking an impulse, but in resisting it and doing the right thing anyway.
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