The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I am assuming each relationship lasts 1 year. Real life has enough additional complexity that I doubt that simplifying conclusion makes any difference, and on average, a year seems like the rough amount of time needed to know if things are going to work out in the longterm with a new partner.
There are all kinds of wrinkles in a real life context, such as being exposed to additional evidence regarding the quality of one's partners before "interviewing" them, not having to see strictly serially, not needing a strict amount of time for each relationship, having each relationship change your SMV and so on.
But either approach shows that OP wasn't being sensible in how he handled things.
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