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Wellness Wednesday for December 27, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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What is the point of a 6 years relationship?

Based on that woman tolerating that, she was probably not a good partner. It shouldn't take more than a year to figure out whether a person is good or not, ideally in chastity. If you can't, ask your older relatives, that's what family is for.

Women only get a couple decades of healthy reproduction, taking 6 whole years away from them is cruel.

I might be missing out on more.

Can you elaborate on that? What is it that some hypothetical woman would bring to the table that would make wasting ~8 years of your adult life worth it (realistically speaking you're not gonna be serious before at least 2 years with a new partner even if you found them tomorrow)?