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Wellness Wednesday for December 20, 2023

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In other words, you are closer in temperament to the average woman than the 75th percentile man? Why must this be changed and for what? Especially along male coded traits.

You are also probably more neurotic (I would wager 60-70th percentile for women). But negatives feel disproportionately worse anyways for evo-psych reasons, given you know the worst thing that can happen is literally game over.

My unsolicited advice? Accept yourself for who you are rather than who BAP or some greek philosopher says you should be, after all that is one of great things of being a woman, your status and worth isn't tied to how how good you are in the global sense.

Or to be less condescending ----->

I don’t mean to sound like one of those depressives for whom every happiness seems temporary and every setback permanent, because I’d say I’m a pretty happy person. It’s more that I think I just don’t get as much out of both victory and defeat as other people do. Neither particularly motivates me, my happiest memories are all things like conversations with friends and loved ones, entertaining experiences, falling in love, that kind of thing. I can’t recall one real moment of personal triumph in the competitive sense that sticks with me, stuff like getting the job I wanted or getting into a good college was ten minutes of happiness (although really more like relief) before I continued with my day.

------> Do more of ^. Have kids, look after them, be a good mother, wife, friend, etc.

Also like the other guy said.. Dose testosterone, this is probably as innate as anything could be.

Also try starting a business or taking a risk, I've seen few people work harder and being as much on the sigma grindset as business owners, but I would once again wager its survivorship bias, the ones not willing to be ruthless and work their fucking asses off and don't feel joy at merely winning and taking market share, etc, don't make it.

https://youtube.com/watch?v=KTLw2vM3N6I

^ Also what do you think of this woman?

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