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He isn't laying eggs out in the wilderness, presumably the people who opt to take sperms from donors are above average in terms of dedication and interest in parenting, certainly in wealth.
No, in some kind of refrigerated device.
People with an interest in parenting don't need to buy sperm in most cases.
I would surmise that that group would be older and less likely to have large families. While wealth is a good thing to have to support a family, having young parents and siblings can arguably be beneficial as well.
Especially when it comes time to help raise grandchildren.
I strongly disagree, and believe me that if I'm not a gyno myself, I would know better.
The typical reason for seeking donor sperm is male infertility in a normal couple, in other words they want kids yet find out they can't have them, biologically related to the man at the least.
It's also prima facie ridiculous if you even think for a minute, of course people seeking donated sperm want a family, what else are they supposed to do with it, organize bukkake parties?
I would be very concerned if "he" laid eggs anywhere really. But it's the 21st century, who am I to assume pronouns?
I don't want to touch that one with a ten-foot barge pole, but believe me: I wouldn't be at all surprised.
Ah, the wonders of humanity in its rich variety!
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Yes, I understand that, but most people who want kids don't have that issue.
There wouldn't be such a high abortion rate if the average person needed a specific medicalized procedure to get a woman pregnant.
Absent that specific procedure, the woman with a burning desire to have kids could easily find a different mate to get it done, considering how common it is for people to swap partners these days.
I took what you previously said as implying that people who opt for sperm donors don't want kids, which may have been a misunderstanding on my part.
Are you encouraging women to leave their husbands because they're infertile? I mean, I personally think that's an entirely understandable if uncomfortable reason, but the women are presumably finding a new "mate" in the form of the donor, without having to break monogamy with the man they know and love.
Not necessarily, I would just advise people who actually want to raise children to make that a priority in their life. If you belong to a secular tribe, you could easily try out a partner and leave them if they are infertile.
If you don't belong to a secular tribe and God does not send you the children you hoped for, you'll probably find plenty of children in your tribe to help out with.
The hard part is not making them, it's actually taking care of the children.
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