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Good luck! The anxiety is normal. You will get used to making plans on the go and being more spontaneous fairly quickly. Try to be serious about using this time to break some undesirable habits and hopefully form new and more desirable ones. You will come across a lot of unattached young adventurous females so for example it’s a very good time to start being more daring with flirting :). Try to meet other people doing a similar travel and keep in touch. You will get homesick after a while and it’s nice to have some familiar faces once in a while. Try to be very open to experiences. Don’t say no to people who invite you to activities unless you have reasonable worries about your safety.
I'm gay so unattached women aren't really that appealing to me, though I'm willing to try anything once. I do want to try getting out of my shell more in that regard, though. I have very little sexual experience and I find the idea of sex more scary than exciting. I guess that's another pattern I want to try and break.
Thank you for the advice, though.
A bit of a personal question: how did you come to the conclusion that you are gay with very little sexual experience?
Because I am, and always have been, attracted to and sexually aroused by men. I kind of more deliberately put it together in adolescence. I just don't like having sex that much.
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