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Point of order: why is ‘big yud’ acceptable but ‘misgendering’ isn’t? I thought it was a sexual/personal nickname. It’d bother me if people started referring to me in public with private nicknames. As a third party, I find it in poor taste/gossipy.
All this to say, my true preference would be to allow both cases, it’s not up to the referree to decide what he is referred to as, even if it hurts him. The conception others have of me and how they express it is not my territory, it’s their map. I was never very interested in Jordan Peterson, but he got that right. We can’t have people lay claim to other people’s conceptual and linguistic space on the basis of harm reduction. It’s absurd that this group has been allowed dominion over the pronouns, which should be everyone's functional, usefool tools. Even in a pro-free expression, de facto anti-woke place like this, @ZorbaTHut’s proclaiming byzantine rules over their use. We’re supposed to check the history of a person’s consent to pronoun before we refer to them in the simplest way possible, come on. Just let the pronouns go free.
Honestly, if it's a legit mistake, I'm not going to care much. I'm probably just going to say "hey don't use that for that person, thanks". It's more when someone is doing it intentionally and repeatedly that I start telling people to knock it off. I'm not sure we've ever given out a warning for this, let alone a ban.
And remember that gender-neutral pronouns are always acceptable, as is not using pronouns - if you don't want to keep track of what people's identity is, there's two easy global solutions.
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