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PaperclipPerfector  1yr ago (text post)   4449 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for November 19, 2023

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I'm not involuntarily celebrate. I recently got out of a relationship. It's just hard to meet women, especially offline, and I feel like my options are more limited than they could be. And before that, the girl I wanted to marry broke up with me in part because of how my career was going.

Online dating is extremely difficult in my new city. I think I was borderline for being attractive enough in my last city to make it work, and the dating environment in my new city is less forgiving. I think things will look up if I can move to somewhere with more opportunity.

Do you think your professional misfortunes are reversible? Are you at least on track to make your money?

Who knows? My boss seems to like promotions more than pay raises that keep up with inflation and doesn't seem to mind high turnover. So I have to find something else.

I'm smart, but maybe I don't have the social skills to navigate the working world. I have very little idea of what sort of careers paths exist in my chosen field or how to get and pass job interviews. I think not knowing many people limits the secondhand knowledge I get about these things.

My ex-girlfriend asked me to come up with a five year plan, and I can't even begin to figure what that means. My goal is to get a job that pays more and that I like better, and I don't know enough about what's out there to "plan" that. Things were a lot easier in university when I just had to attend lectures, do the labs, learn the material, and ace the tests.

Are you fit and manage to dress well?

Somewhat.

And before that, the girl I wanted to marry broke up with me in part because of how my career was going.

I wonder how I might have a conversation about this with my future partner. Say I'm stressed about my job and she asks why and how she might support me. It would seem awkward to say it's partially her fault for adding to the potential negative consequences of failure.

Without knowing more about your career, I can't really comment, but it seems to me you're doing the right things, at least in terms of jumping jobs for a pay raise.

If possible, try and become friends with your colleagues, at the very least they'll likely have wives or girlfriends, and women love setting up eligible singles, unless all your coworkers are in the same boat I suppose.

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