The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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I suppose it's interesting because as someone who holds a lot of feelings of self-hatred, I'm totally aware that I could drop them like a hot potato and engage in self-love instead. It's just so unconvincing. Fundamentally I don't believe and I don't think I could make myself believe that I deserve love. And frankly, I'm not any more low-functioning under these conditions than I was a few years ago when I didn't feel this way.
It feels a little bit to me like Christianity. Of course it would be very nice to just reach out with my mind and reciprocate the boundless, deep, unconditional love that God has for me. I just don't believe it, I don't believe Jesus rose from the dead, or that gay sex is wrong.
More broadly, I don't think people need to have a 'relationship with themselves'. The whole thing sounds hideous. Is it not better to not have a relationship with yourself at all? I feel happiest when I'm at work, focusing on some task external to myself. I think of such times as when I'm being myself, rather than talking or fighting myself. And though maybe some level of introspection is a necessary part of existence, it's in service to actually inhabiting yourself.
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