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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 6, 2023

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but I need to compensate for my other male characteristics.

No you don't. There are plenty of out-of-shape women, with bad skin etc.

Compare my situation to the stereotypical gay man hooking up with a new partner every weekend, or a straight incel addicted to porn?

If I didn’t transition and all I did was wear the headphones and glasses, people’s actions wouldn’t reflect them seeing me as a woman no matter how you edited their words.

You don't have enough imagination.

Like if I went to a bar, no straight man would actually want to take me home (and they might punch me if the AR system edited their words to mean sexual advances).

The smart glasses would take you to the gay tranner bar full of gay men looking for other gay men wearing smart glasses.

I would still have male genitals and feel there them even if I didn’t see them, and the outline of my body wouldn’t match where I put my hands.

No because you'd be under the impression that all normal women have male genitalia as well.

Also if I applied makeup wouldn’t it look all wrong since it would edit my facial proportions?

Your face would look like it never needs makeup applied and even if you did apply makeup badly, it'd look great to you and you'd never hear anybody complain about it.

Tbh that sounds like a cool hook for a sci-fi dystopia story where the population is addicted to AR glasses that personalise reality to their own wants and desires. Basically one step below living in the Matrix.