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Culture War Roundup for the week of September 19, 2022

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The teacher example's got a lot to do with the proximity to the age of consent, though?

Then again I'd feel differently about like 3 different hypothetical situations of

50-something CEO sleeping with fresh, 20 year old Intern in first real job

30-something middle manager sleeping with mid-twenties graduate who is their direct report

40-something senior middle manager sleeping with middler middle manager who's also in their 40s.

Imagine working your ass off, being in that top 0 point whatever percent of the population that could ever be CEO of anything... And then sleeping with some woman your age. It sounds almost autistic: he didn't get the message (that sexual access is one of the main components of the payoff for male success).

I'm not saying sleep with your intern. Or never have a serious relationship. Just that the opportunities and expectations are different for different classes of people.

The teacher example's got a lot to do with the proximity to the age of consent, though?

Maybe. Though let's say for the sake of argument that we knew all these girls were 18. I'm generally fine with people sleeping with 18 year old women, if the women want to. But in this case, I think I'd still have an issue with it, due to the relationship. It could be that my disgust response is somehow downstream and influenced by the proximity to the age of consent, however, though I don't think so.