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14 years is a long sentence, but he made it that long by refusing to purge his contempt. So this is a tricky one, it's based on a divorce where there is "he said/she said" about the marriage (was he miserly? did he make his wife do the kind of work that a gardener/landscaping service etc. would be hired to do, at their level of wealth?) but the immediate contempt seems to be him lying about the money. "Oh, I lost it all" (no, he sent it overseas to various accounts to stash for him to use in future).
So the case is not just about "pay your ex-wife the alimony", it's about lying to the court (and possibly dodging tax and the like with this kind of transferring money all around but that's a different matter) and continuing to lie.
"Do not lie to the court" seems to be a principle we need, and if you do lie and are found out, then you should be punished. What kind of punishment, though? A fine? He's claiming he has no money to pay fines. So then jail - and yeah, that ends up with 14 years because he's hoping to call their bluff, get out, and go fly off to be with his 'missing' money (the second link says he attempted to flee the country before being arrested, so why do that if you honestly are penniless?)
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