The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I don't see the big deal. Clearly you are both adults that have been presumably been involved for a while and yet she is still your 'girlfriend'. If you were anything but a current-year-feminist you would go from 'woman I am courting' to 'fiancée' to 'wife'.
She would be too busy making friends with soon-to-be mothers or mothers to entertain they/them and this would not even come up. As far as language policing goes, you would be having arguments over which racial slurs are acceptable to say in front of your offspring.
What is it to you?
Ancestors cry just the same.
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