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Wellness Wednesday for October 11, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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I'm mildly miffed that nobody has ever asked me to use non-natal pronouns in person (I had the misfortune to wander into some rather queer discord servers online).

Makes me feel like I'm missing out, not that I really want that particular brainworm in my local memeplex.

Well, I have misgendered someone, in a bleakly funny example where I called a cancer patient "sir" because I'd been too lazy to look at the name on the file, and in that case, she was utterly bald, wrinkled like a prune, and just about as androgynous as a human can get from being on the verge of dying from every cancer anyone can care to name. Hopefully she was too deaf to notice, or chalked it down to acute sleep deprivation.

Are 'they' pronouns and nonbinary folks not common in India? It's just about everywhere in the U.S. at this point. I've been in a similar position.