The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I certainly do; right after my last child was born. My wife was unconscious and not in the maternity room, but when I read that the emergency life-saving procedures she was undergoing still had about a 1% failure (i.e. death) rate I was more afraid than I've ever been.
The fear seems to be increasing even as the risk decreases. Today the maternal mortality rate is 1/10000 for most people and a spike up to 1/100 is a rare emergency "crash cart" situation. The death rate from childbirth used to be around 1/100 for everyone, and somehow humanity just put up with that. My wife totally would have; she's much braver than me. Before the incident we'd already decided on permanent contraception to stop at three kids; she now regrets not rolling the dice for a fourth.
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