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Wait, what?
What do you mean by "fully sovereign" in this context? In what sense are the current generation of men "sovereign?"
What to you mean by "owned" in this context? Do you have any anectotes about this?
Since you apparently have opinions on whether of not Russian traditionalists should vow to obey their husbands, I just want to put it out there that there aren't wedding vows at all in Orthodox ceremonies, so Russian Orthodox traditionalists wouldn't necessarily vow anything to their husbands. But they are both crowned, sovereign in their household, and "crowns of martyrdom," it's said.
Most modern men are slaves by historical standards. A "sovereign man" or perhaps more accurately a "free man" is able to both obtain the means of sustenance by building and trading and interacting with society, and physically can protect what he has from predation. Remember, the idea that police are the frontline protection against predation is very new. In older times, a free man was much more responsible for physically protecting his own liberty and property.
A book could be written on this. The term "owned" isn't quite right, the husband-wife relationship is sui genersis so inherently it needs its own word. But for one example -- women will boundary test (like children) (also known in PUA as shit test or fitness test), all women will boundary test, and they like it if you pass the test and are deeply uncomfortable if they fail. An wife ultimately wants to rely on you as her rock, and as part of that is having enough of a sense of command to do what is good for her, not always what she says she wants at the time.
This is why I was asking more for anecdotes.
Do women prefer decisive men who have a vision for their family, and are able and willing to lead them toward that vision in the face of opposition, sometimes even from their wives? And also have good judgement to actually know what's best, better than their wives? Do they prefer men who are able to provide and protect, can leave demeaning jobs and get by on their own if necessary? Sure. That's, sure enough, why all romance novel leads are like that, and also tall and strong.
However, to the extent that here in reality there are a bunch of men who are directionless and depressed, going into bullshit jobs every day where they get demeaned by their female boss while their infants are in daycare all day because it still isn't enough to afford a mortgage, what then? Rervrn to harems and multiple wives for the capable? To drafty tenements so the wives of the working class can stay home and... what? Supervise their laundry machines and dishwashers and crock pots? Homeschool their children, but then get so upset about the lack of in-house leadership they outsource is to IBLC? This has been tried.
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