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In terms of the views of the 'people', my general impression is that most men are openly very supportive of the increased availability of sex outside of long-term committed relationships, and that many are openly supportive of the availability of one-night stands. In terms of the public statements of 'intellectuals' - I think thrre were a lot of male intellectuals in the past who supported the 'sexual revolution', and there continue to be so today?
I agree that feminism support male and female promiscuity, but male feminists and female feminists both support it.
I don't think it is really possible to get an accurate picture of sentiment here given the overwhelming amounts of social control and messaging on the topic. Most men are in fact openly very supportive of the ideologies that they are required to support in order to remain employed, but I'm not sure how much of that translates to actual, real support. The constant witch-hunting that takes place these days is, to me at least, a sign that this outward support isn't always matched behind the mask.
This includes a lot of private conversations, in groups and one-on-one. And the character of them isn't at all 'thing i say because i have to for social acceptance'. A guy in college who's very happy about his first time, or bragging about his fourth, doesn't really remind me of 'the captive mind'.
I think I may have been a bit unclear when I spoke before and given more of a hostile or conspiratorial approach, when I think this is more a case of a fish not really perceiving water. I think that the vast majority of men don't get to the level of seriously interrogating their personal beliefs and attitudes on this topic, and instead act within the confines of the society and culture that they grew up in. To complain about the current order of things is largely seen as broadcasting either "I am a loser who fails to get laid" or (a very hyperbolic) "I am a hardline conservative who wants to institute white sharia".
I personally think the current system has a lot of problems, but that doesn't stop me from acting to optimise my success within it, and being happy when I do succeed. If you actually laid all the options out and got them to make an informed choice, I think the majority of men would opt for something other than the current dating market... but this is a rationalist forum and you know what a co-ordination problem is already.
I agree in principle, but the 'inferential distance' between them and that choice are entire systems of moral philosophy so it's basically just saying 'i'm right, and people would agree if they were more correct'. Which, to be fair, is more or less true in this case.
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