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Wellness Wednesday for August 23, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Have you asked this person to stop? Have they even been bothering you at work? It took me a 2nd read-through of your post to realize that you don’t mention either of those two things.

I ask because if a dude came onto this forum and said that he really likes this girl at work, thinks she’s the best thing ever, decided to get her number and go for it, spilled his feelings out over the phone to her in a moment of weakness, and then ended up fired by HR with no warning, I’d be pretty sympathetic. I don’t think that’s an analogous situation to what you’re describing, but I can’t rule it out.