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Wellness Wednesday for August 23, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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I'll be talking to her tomorrow in a public place with people nearby, so any advice that comes in before then is extra appreciated.

Meeting with people nearby is very different from meeting with people. The former prevents lies about say...a row but not more insidious tales. Can you actually count on any of the people nearby to corroborate anything that happened?

I'm prone to avoidance so factor that in, but I honestly wouldn't want to do anything that doesn't have independent corroboration with someone with this sort of disordered relationship with truth. The fact that they're capable of such lurid and over-the-top falsehoods actually may make it worse: good people may simply default to giving her the benefit of the doubt.

I mean, you did.