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Wellness Wednesday for August 9, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

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You'll never beat raw neuroticism. I have this problem with my wife all the time. I like to wait until after all the dishes get dirtied before I start washing them. Like say, after dinner. For a multitude of reasons. I have terrible skin, and getting my hands soapy and wet, then dry, then soapy and wet, then dry, over and over and over again through the day causes them to crack and bleed. I hate the context switching from whatever I'm doing to just wash one single fork and plate. I want to see all the dishes that are going to need to fix into the dishwasher so I can plan how I'll fit them all in there.

All of these reasons fall of deaf ears. Having anything in the sink makes my wife anxious, and somehow that's my problem. I'm being lazy if I don't do the dishes before she even sees them.

Do you not have gloves for washing up? If you have sensitive skin (as I do), some shopping might be necessary to find a pair that doesn't irritate your hands, but it's better than getting them wet.

I've tried to use gloves, but I always end up dropping everything constantly instead. I haven't found a size that fits right. They're either too big with extra dangly bits at the tips of each finger that cause me to fumble, or they are too small and I can't get them over the widest part of my hand.

But then there is the fact that putting on gloves to wash a single plate and fork adds one extra obnoxious step to what is already a tedious task not worth the context switch for me.