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I've had this issue with multiple housemates I've lived with, and eventually solved it by marrying a man who's just as messy as I am and buying a house. If we end up having to eventually replace the entire floor once the kids get older on account of stains or something, at least we're in it together. We'll both learn how to put down laminate or something. My father used to wait until we were out of dishes to wash them all at once for an hour twice a week or so. Apparently that worked alright for my parents, they're still together.
Apparently, Big 5 trait breaks up into industriousness and orderliness, and it's really hard on orderly people to relax in chaotic environments. Or so I've heard, I score something like third percentile in orderliness, unlike your wife.
I'm not certain what a good long term solution might be. Agree to do the dishes at a specific time each day, and set a timer? Always wash the dishes right after dinner? Own fewer dishes, so that you notice faster? Agree that one or the other of you is completely responsible for the vacation plans for a specific trip, and it's an infringement if the other swoops in and takes over just because they're feeling anxious?
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