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I know this is anecdote rather than data, but the non-binary people I see are those who present as such online, and I'd give a rough estimate that 99% of those are women (because they look like women, no matter if they get the butch haircut) and the remainder are weird men or genuinely unsure could be either male or female.
I do think there is a difference between "I'm NB, that means I'm not male or female, sometimes I'm both, sometimes I'm one or the other" and "George is a big manly lumberjack who is a former Marine and he loves little fluffy kittens"/"Sancha is a girly girl who dresses in pink like her idol, Barbie, and if you ever need your motorbike's engine stripped down she's the one to do it" version of "this person does not adhere 100% to gender stereotypes".
'Non-binary' as in "men inherit traits from their mothers, women inherit traits from their fathers, you can have interests about X but that does not contradict your membership of the sex Y" is natural.
But non-binary as I see it used is all part of the political and '500 genders' thing, where there is a very definite way set out of how you should 'dress like this, act like this, talk like this' about it - at least in the self-reinforcing groups that talk about it.
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