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It was a silly line and you probably shouldn't have included it if you wanted to be taken seriously.
If you just wanted to complain about your dumb in-laws, as a humorous piece, okay but you sounded too serious for that.
You wanted to marry this particular woman, and these were the conditions. Would you be doing strikeouts if it read:
The choice, ultimately, was up to you and her. If agreeing to the Catholic conditions was too much, you could have decided not to marry her. If she wanted to marry you but you didn't want to agree, then she could have agreed not to have the church wedding and not baptise the kids.
Both of you made compromises, and while I can't speak for her, you seem to have indeed gone into it with your fingers crossed behind your back; yeah I'm gonna say I agree but I really don't. I'm happy to lie to people in order to get what I want.
I think we're all getting caught up on that, as distinct from your larger point that you're an atheist and not going to change on that. On that point, your in-law is out of order. The rest of it, which you introduced, is about you wanting to eat your cake and have it.
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