The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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If it's relatively easy for you to trigger the "storming off" behavior - problem solved. I mean, you don't value her opinion about you, likely. You don't depend on her in any way. You don't seek her company or need her to sustain contact with you, right? Just make any interaction with you as unpleasant and triggering for her as possible, and she'll learn to avoid the pain. You don't have to suffer for it - why would you care what she thinks or does?
But why do you care? Nobody appointed her an arbiter of human worth, and the only reason why you may care about this if you decide to care. You are as free to decide to not care. Let her think whatever she wants. Expell her from your universe of caring. Don't let her live in your head. Yes, you may see her from time to time - but it's your choice how these interactions would go and what you feel about them. You can ignore her, you can treat her as an annoying insect, you can purposely piss her off, you can make a sport of triggering her and mocking her, you can do a lot of things - but you need to be in control and not let her to define how you feel and let her hurt you this way.
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