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Culture War Roundup for the week of July 10, 2023

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To plug those numbers in:

Of the estimated 4,970 female victims of murder and nonnegligent manslaughter in 2021, data reported by law enforcement agencies indicate that 1689.8 were killed by an intimate partner (figure 1). By comparison, about 1078.2 of the 17,970 males murdered that year were victims of intimate partner homicide.

Overall, 3777.2 of female murders and 10063.2 of male murders were perpetrated by someone known to the victim. About 795.2 of female murder victims were killed by a nonintimate family member—parent, grandparent, sibling, in-law, and other family member—compared to 1797 of male murder victims.

A larger percentage of males (3773.7) were murdered by a stranger than females (596.4). For 5990 male murder victims and 994 female murder victims, the relationship between the victim and the offender was unknown.

To be honest, it’s surprising to me that known intimate partner killings with a male victim is that high. Do we have stats on whether gay couples kill each other more or less often? (Though the majority of that still has to be from women since gay men simply aren’t that much of the population, unless gay men really love murdering each other)

I imagine "known intimate partner" is wife or girlfriend killing the guy, which does happen. But generally the rule of thumb is "man more likely to be killed by stranger, woman more likely to be killed by boyfriend". Not all men, indeed - but not all women, either.

Yeah, I figured. And men getting killed more often by non-spouse friends and family, too.